so theres this boy. hes really into games, not very social, has a little temper and is terrible with knowing his own feelings. i was bestfriends with this boy for 2 years before we started dating. he was my first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything thats not sex(only we came close). he was my everything. during out relationship he would break up with me sometimes but ask me back out in less than 24 hours. it was always after a fight..he wasnt good at talking things out so he would dump me. we dated for about 2 years but two months ago he dumped me, saying he wasnt sure if he was in love with me (which is what he always said when he dumped me). i took it hard. really hard. this all happened around the same time that his computer(his world) broke, he got a new STi(fancy racecar thing) and started hanging out with tons of girls(something he never did). he turned into a giant flirt pretty much. that killed me. so we fought about all these new girls he was with. he was hooking up with 21yearold college drops outs (we're 16 btw) and it was all just so not him. so a handfull of girls later, he meets Hilliary. she was his bestfriend's girlfriend's friend? hah. she lived in a town near us but left for college right after they met. i guess they started talking alot online and eventually he asked her out. after only meeting her once. o_O now between these two months of being broken up, we were still hooking up sometimes cause it just felt right. so hes dating her and all, but one day he totally comes on to me, and we hook up. i didnt mind at all. i missed him like crazy. so after that i made him choose, me or her. he said he had to wait till she came home for break..which was last week. they hung out. now this whole time he was leading me on..saying he missed me and wanted me back. i was so sure he would dump her when she came home cause they always fought online (only 2 days into their relationship was their first fight, they broke up about 5 times since then and its been 2 weeks) she never knew about me really..but i texted him one day he was with her and she saved my number to her cell and started sending me nasty messages saying he doesnt care about me or what i say. but she doesnt know that it was HIM that wanted me back. he found out and defended me so much that they broke up (for ten minutes -_-) now she hates me and wants me to die pretty much since she sees he cares about me still. so then me and him talked and he said he chooses her and that he never wanted me back he was just confused about things cause he hadnt been with her in so long. ouch.i guess the really short version of all that is: dated him for 2 years, has a new girlfriend that he never met and is only gonna see about once a month whos so not right for him, and i completely want him back and i know he wants me too. i dont know what to do. =(
Exboyfriend and his new girlfriend.
It's clear as crystal: He's just not that into you.It's for the better. This guy sounds like an ass anyway. Time to move on to bigger and better things.ADDED: (I'm going to elaborate more.)Honey, it's obvious this guy has commitment issues. And him saying that he doesn't love you is a clear cut sign that this "relationship" didn't have a snowball's chance is hell. Do you realize that he's using you for sex WHILE he's with other girls? You deserve better.This is going to sound rude but, now that you are not together, what right do you have to poke your nose into his business? I mean, of course he's going to go back to other women. You can't be jealous because there's nothing between you two.You just need to open up your eyes and see how ugly this situation is. He doesn't even love or respect you and uses you for sex, while he's with other women.Come on, sweetie. You have to be strong and move on. Cut this guy from your life and be happy.
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