Warning--post is kind of long (sorry)
As you guys know, I'm a entry-level reporter at a daily newspaper in Georgia. I work with three other reporters. Me and our cops/courts reporter started around the same time, which is back in August (she was an intern there in July, so I guess that counts).
Over the weekend, her and her boyfriend broke up. She said he blamed her anxiety over her job and other things that pushed him away. The anxiety she feels from the job is nothing unusual. Journalism is a big stressor and it's not for everyone. What's more unusual is our boss is high-strung. Okay, she's a nut job. She expects a lot from her reporters. And once we make mistakes and have to print corrections, she makes us feel like crap in a passive-aggressive way.
Now that her boyfriend has broken up with her, she said she will now quit her job in a month. She's blaming this job for making her anxious, thus ruining her relationship. She said she would vent and stress about her stories (worrying if she got everything right) while at home with him.
I understand where she's coming from and I don't blame her for quitting if she can't handle the pressure. I understand that this profession isn't for everyone. However, I don't feel like she's quitting for the right reason. While she said the job was and has been causing her undue anxiety, I feel like she's quitting the job because she felt like it ruined her relationship. I feel like she thinks she can get him back by quitting the job.
I told her I would support her decision because I understand our boss is very demanding and very pushy. But, I told her, I believe her boyfriend used her anxiety as an excuse for leaving. She said he talked about marrying her; that he was struggling in school and that he missed his parents. She also said she found a picture of a topless girl in his cell phone last Friday. He said the picture was sent from a girl who wanted him a while back (isn't that a little fishy).
Anyway, do you think she should quit her job? I also suffer with the anxiety of getting my stories wrong. But, I'm not going to quit after four months. But, I understand how she feel.
If you were in her shoes, would you quit?
P.S.--sorry if this isn't clear; my brain doesn't work after 7 p.m.
Warning--post is kind of long (sorry)
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It sounds to me like she's gotten rid of an idiot (topless girl on his cell phone? Come on, how can she be that blind and think nothing's going on?) and has a lot more time to focus on her job now.
They may well be other factors we don't know about. She may want to quit anyway and be looking for a reason.
Originally Posted By: IneligibleThey may well be other factors we don't know about. She may want to quit anyway and be looking for a reason.
That was my thought as well.
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I was thinking the same thing.
I've seen how hard you have worked Kristal to get where you are now. I can't imagine coming so far, just to quit over a cheating boyfriend or a douchebag boss.
~I tried to be good, but then I got bored~
to you, to her, to anyone who ever has faced a decision of any kind or will have to make any choice in the future,
Do what makes you happy.
If your happy under the stress, then stick it out, if not then leave, even if you leave it doenst mean you cant first find a job in the same field at another place where the boss is not a high strung twat.
If you quit what you love over some BF or GF as the case may be, your an idiot, Julies pissy every night she comes home from work, shes always stressed out, Im not leaving her over it, a few hours of blowing it out her ass and venting and shes back to normal, being there when your lover is in need of ranting is part of being in a relationship. either he wanted out and used it as an excuse, or, hes a shallow fuck, either way good riddance, you dont need anyone that doesnt really want to be with you.
Do what makes you happy, you have to live for yourself, not for everyone else, it took me 30 fucking years to figure that out, but the last 6 years have been much better than the first 30.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.
I can say this much.
First, journalism is a bitch of a career. I grew up in that field, so I'm just not making that up. AND the more serious you are, the worse it gets.
I could go on for days about that - but bet you already know.
You are a better judge about the BF. Naked strippers - I got to say no big deal..
The career choice - maybe - the hours and all of that. A lot of ppl also just have a ideal, and thats hard to match/
Are u saying ur friend is loosing her BF - AND giving up her career - maybe just in case.
As a friend, that's where u come in...
Whatever she decides ought to be for her. YOur job is to be there. If shes worth it, she'll figure it out. It may not be pretty but u'll understand the process better at the end.
If all that is gibberish, I've been through it - and maybe you had to be there. Anyway, I understand...