Ugh, this is really starting to bother me. I'm in college, she is too, completely different school. She's had eating problems for years, but it's starting to drive me crazy. She bakes, and talks about baking, but like most anorexics, doesn't eat it. Just now she told me that she got candy and chips from her mom, but can't eat it because she's on a diet. She's so skinny, the word diet should never come out of her mouth. Honestly, I'd rather she became a 400lb. cow, than to keep dealing with this issue. Anytime I say something about it, she gets offended. I want to help and be supportive and all, but disorders like this never made sense to me, and it's really really annoying.
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Anorexia
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WHO is "she?" Your girlfriend, or just a friend?
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Whether she is his girlfriend or just his friend it doesn't realy matter...I understand you worrying about this girl. "Dieting" can be unhealthy and anorexia is always unhealthy. There's not much you can do but talk to her...and try not to let it get to you. It is her choice in the end.
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Originally Posted By: gooooooogleI want to help and be supportive and all, but disorders like this never made sense to me, and it's really really annoying. First off, get your head out of your butt and don't call anoerxia "annoying". It's a real disorder that should be taken very seriously. She's sick, not annoying. And with that kind of thinking, how can you be supportive?If she's been dealing with this for years, you seriously need to get her some professional help. There's not much you can do on your own.
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My opinion on anorexia is as long as the person doesn't die i could care less what they do, the more people comment on what they do, they more they'll do itEverytime they hear a "your skinny"they'll get it deeper in their mind that "no im fat"
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Would you say the same applies to you? Everyone here has told you your nose is fine, but maybe you have convinced yourself it's not fine?
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'she' is my girlfriend and i guess the reason why it bothers me is because being apart for months is hard enough, and so these little problems get to me. I dunno, like, she says she loves the holidays cause she can make cookies and to expect to have her make me more cookies than i could imagine. i don't want any of her cookies if she's just going to make them and not eat any. She's always cooking, but never eating what she makes. When I picked her up from the airport for thanksgiving she hadn't eaten all day, and refused to let me get her food on the way home. Now she's suddenly on this "diet" even though she's like, the bottom of the healthy weight level. Over the summer she hated her doctor, because he weighed her, and said she was underweight, and made her go back in for future weigh ins. I dunno.
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An intervention is in order. Gather her family, friends, and a doctor who specializes, whoever you can to get her to convince her she needs help. If she's your GF and you love her, it will be worth it, and she'll thank you in the end.
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I agree with Sexpert.