i met this girl at a resort in orlando and we only saw each other for 2 days and on the last day i asked her for her phone # and she said " u will never see me again " and i said " i bet you will " any ways i went back home and i called that girl after 2 wks and she was really exited that i called and eventuly we started talking more and more when i noticed we were talking for like 8 to 10 hours a day. after 6 months i made that girl move down to florida(she lived in chicago)with her whole family and she moved about 2 hours away from me, when i found out she moved down i drove to see her and we fell in love, she lost her virginity to me and i decided to live with her for 6 months but her parents hated me because i'm 4 yrs older then her but we didnt care and we had an amazing time we were soooo in love and didnt want to do anything but spend time together and talk about us and have sex....all the good stuff. a yr after i got a dui so i couldnt drive to see her every now and then so the ralation ship kinda went down hill and when we were together there wasnt enough time and we used to argue and argue...it got really bad now we are not going out and she likes another kid according to her they arent doing anything besides kissin and shit like that and i actully belive her because i know the kind of girl she is but she also tells me that she is very confused and she dosnt know what to do because she loves me and she allways will and she misses me and that im not there every day like i used to be. she dosnt really call me like she used to and i also noticed she only misses me and wants to talk to me when that other kid is not around. the other day i stopped talking to her for like 3-4 days and i called her and she told me that she cant get over me and she misses me and loves me and me like an idiot sent her 3 dozen roses with a teddy bear and ballons which she liked but i feel like she dosnt deserve it and i told her that and she didnt say anything. honestly i dont know what to do this is my 1st love and i'm her 1st love and the only person she has been with and on top of that she is sooooooo gorgeous and she knows it and she think she can get and do whatever she wants because she is a very good looking girl. so i dont know what to do if i should just stop talking to her or keep talking to her i'm' very confused and i also love her a lot and i know she loves me but she is confused .............. some one give me some advise
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Girls are extreamly emotional and complecated.
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what advice would you give your best friend if he were in this situation?
i suspect you'd tell him to move on, and that's what i think you should do. why subject yourself to someone who is messing with your mind and heart?
i know you feel that she is "it", but believe me, she isn't. you're young plus you had sex with her, so the feelings are overwhelming but not entirely "true".
cut your losses and find a girl who deserves you.
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Girls are extreamly emotional and complicated
agreed.
i agree with maggie on this one
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This is only what I would do. Give her one choice or the other. Either be true to you and only you or she should stop talking to you and start being true to this other guy she likes. You can only be with one person and she's with 2. Been there, done that, don't get played.
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She might be lying about loving you. She knows you'd come back to her and give her presents, so she wants your attention. Girls do that. We may not like you, but we'll flirt with you so that we hold onto your attention. The more beautiful a girl is, the more insecure she is. What i'm saying is, ditch her. I'm sure you're an attractive guy if you could get an attractive girl.
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i saw her on thurs for the 1st time in like 2-3 wks and we were hanging out and obviously i wasnt treating her like i used to, i say i was treating her more like a friend and she was all over me and wanting to kiss me and etc any ways at the end of the night all she kept saying is that she wanted me and at the end of the night we end up having sex while we were having sex she started to cry(ballin) and she said that she didnt know why she was crying but then we laid in bed and fell as sleep the next morning we had a 1 hour conversation before i went home and we were talking about how we used to be and how we are now and she told me that she loves me and she allways will and she told me that she dosnt want to be with anyone else but me so i told her we could be friends with benefits and she said ok. and i actully like this more. she is a very confusing girl and some times i cant understand her.
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dont be confused ..if u think your in love with her then comensence u r..im not sure if this will work but u can talk to her inperson and explain to her how much you care for her .. but if that wont work if shes the type that just doesnt give a damn..i bet your a good looking guy , forget about her and move on..i bet u'll find better
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Not to be harsh or anything, but if it weren't for your irresponsibility getting a DUI you would be having these problems. Anyways how old are you?
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you are right avgjoe. i know this and this is why i cant let her go because i know is my fault....and i also did treat her bad for a while because i was jelous and shit....i'm 20 will be 21 in aug. but i'm starting to realize that i just need to let her go.
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Relationships are all about making shit work and I think you should kepp working at it. You shouldn't just let her go if the both of you still have feelings for each other!! When do you get you liscense back?