I used to drink but after I met my boyfreind I stopped obviously because he's the simple safe playing guy who never gets into trouble and hes really sweet.Recently after 3 years he asked me "what was so great about drinking?" I was surprised to hear it and uncomfortable thinking he was talking about me stressed about the fact that I used to do it I HAD to protect myself in that instant by saying the only thing that I could say that wouldn't sound wrong "Because when I did it nothing else matters" wich is true. But after that he got quiet and for a while he acted stressed.So I asked him what was wrong and he explained that he heard his freinds who he works with talking about going to a party and getting drunk and after he kept hearing it in his head everytime he closed his eyes like it was haunting him telling him "TRY IT".His father used to drink and his mother and him divorced because he was a drunk. He told me he would never drink and he doesn't believe in divorce, at that point I was scared because I thought that he would end up like him.He said he probably wont try it and if he EVER went to such a party he wouldn't drink anything there or get drunk, so I was a little better after that.He also has a crush on a girl at work.She used to go to the same school with him and at the last of the year he noticed her.For a while then it was obviously hell and he even broke up with me the first time over it.Then after being relieved because shes in college but now I find out that that B!TCH completely followed him and its pissing me off SO BAD, I seriously despise this girl although I dont even know her and neither does he, they're not really freinds and Ive never seen her face.He wont quit his job because he's doing something he loves but I know he would never cheat on me hes not that type of a guy, trust me we've known and trusted eachother for 3 years.So I know he's not seeing her or anything, besides she's like two years older than him and in college and hes 16 and in High School, so that WOULD be just plain wrong :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:.Anyways he tells me that he has feelings for her but hes in love with me so we both have to deal with it, especially cause I hate her and Im in love with him, why should I break out of her sake?
I got an idea when we were driving around, I figured that my freind who I've known my entire life would probably get me two wine coolers if I told her it was important and I really needed a "BIG favor". But when I asked him if he wanted me to get some for him to try it once and I would with him (I mean at least he'd be doing it with me :grin: ) but he said that he didn't want me drinking again and he wouldn't drink anything that I would snag from freinds, I dont really know why.... so what do I do? How the HELL is he ever supossed to get over this girl or avoid her? And how am I going to help him solve this curiosity? PLEASE help...
I would appreciate if someone who has had the same problem give me advice, at least they'd know where I was coming from..