Confused at what to do now.

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sorry this is kind of long:
There is a girl in my class who is decent looking and smart, but thinks its cool to play dumb and be a drama queen. im not friends with her, she just hangs out with my friends before the other night i had done nothing more then talk to her, then last night:
i was really, really stoned last night and was on a foot path under a big bridge with my friends. it was me a girl and 2 couples who were hooking up. i was lying on the ground 10 feet away at the last stages of awake before passing out, when the single girl comes over. she climbs onto me and starts riding me, clothes on, asking every 5 minutes if i liked it. later she started giving me a hand job and i was loving it relaxed lying on the ground. i came and past out.
my friends woke me up and helped me get home. i go to the bathroom and a used condom pops out. i called both dudes who i was with and both said by the end of the night she was fucking me.
How do i know if my friends popped the condom in my pants to fuck with me or it actually happened, and where do i go from here with the girl?
PS. i still havent talked to the girl and dnt think we ever kissed.

How do i know if my friends popped the condom in my pants to fuck with me or it actually happenedSorry if this seems obvious, but why not try asking them?> and where do i go from here with the girl?Depends. Doesn't sound like what she did was very fair, though I don't know why you couldn't tell her to stop or anything like that. Not sure about this.

Sounds to me like 2 intoxicated teens just having fun. Why would you ask her to stop?! Am I missing something here?I don't think there's anything to do now. Just be happy that you got a freebie and that you used a condom!Now you can big up your "player" side and get the same thing again and again! You lucked out!

just to clear a couple things up  Quote: How do i know if my friends popped the condom in my pants to fuck with me or it actually happened the friends say they didnt, but my most recent ex was one of their sisters so hes pissed at me right now for dating her and the other is the type of douche who would do it for laughs.  Quote: Doesn't sound like what she did was very fair, though I don't know why you couldn't tell her to stop or anything like that. and sad but true, im dont want sex. im in a long distance relationship so we are cool if the other fools around but no sex, when she was giving me a hand job it was just nice. if we did fuck id be pissed at myself and her.

If you really want to, I'm sure you can call it rape.

Originally Posted By: wowheadand sad but true, im dont want sex. im in a long distance relationship so we are cool if the other fools around but no sex, when she was giving me a hand job it was just nice. if we did fuck id be pissed at myself and her. Sorry, didn't know you were already in a relationship.Oh well, lesson learned. Don't get too stoned that you can't say no to a girl!

Agreed.  Quote:If you really want to, I'm sure you can call it rape.That's what I was thinking. He could also find more trust-worthy friends.

If she took advantage of him while he was in a state where he was unable to say no, then I'm pretty sure you can qualify it as rape.> if you are that far gone, can you get it up enough for sex?I doubt the penis cares if you're conscious or not. Any physical stimulation, which includes a chick sitting on you and riding on you for several minutes, will get it up.

Originally Posted By: RadecklHe was already willingly fooling around and to our knowledge, he never said "NO!"But how was he supposed to say "no", if he was completely knocked out? IF she really slept with him, while he was passed out, without a word of consent, isn't that rape?

Just to add to that point... Turn the tables - if a girl had been fooling around with a guy when she was awake, then found that he had sex with her when she had passed out, I'm pretty confident that would be down as a rape case here...

Also, to the OP - I think to get yourself into that situation when already in a long distance relationship is a bit.. disrespectful.. you should have more control over yourself.

What did you mean by

Originally Posted By: wowhead

" and where do i go from here with the girl? "

Settle down. I wasn't trying to challenge you or anything. Just a simple question I asked. Since you pointed it out... Quote:But, I question whether anybody that drunk or that stoned CAN be raped by a woman, saying: Does anybody know, if you are that far gone, can you get it up enough for sex?I personally wouldn't know. But that's why I said "IF" because I don't think anyone will know for sure what happened. I do wonder if the OP checked the condom if it looked used.The OP put himself in a scary situation. Hopefully lesson learned.

If indeed it did happen, it could definitely be considered rape, just thaT most guys would not follow through pressing charges.

I know its possible.I once woke up in wyoming, Evanston to be exact, with two girls naked in the bed that Id apparently had a good time with the night before. I blacked out 3 days and I fuck them both in that state, yes you can get it up in that state. Not to mention that when I got with Julz, we both were alcoholics and regularly got smashed and fuck away the whole night. Now I never claimed rape, I just took a bath in Listerine and went on with my life Since Iv been with Julz, I prefer to bath in her juices, I dont need listerine, just a shower before we go out in public so I dont smell like sweat and sex.

Originally Posted By: Amz

Also, to the OP - I think to get yourself into that situation when already in a long distance relationship is a bit.. disrespectful.. you should have more control over yourself.

What did you mean by

Originally Posted By: wowhead

" and where do i go from here with the girl? "

Amz, my long distance relationship is kinda open. my gf and i are cool with any fooling around just no sex.

Radeckle, i can get my dick hard any time besides when im on shrooms. i know i can get them when im not awake cuase i get morning woods all the fucking time.

i asked the girls and both also said i was fucked and i am sure the condom was used so i think iv kinda accepted we had sex. now all i want to know is wtf do i do/say to the girl cause i still havent scene her (she was sick)?
do i avoid her and try not to bring it up?
run through the halls shouting "kate raped me"?
pretend it never happened?

Originally Posted By: wowhead Originally Posted By: AmzAlso, to the OP - I think to get yourself into that situation when already in a long distance relationship is a bit.. disrespectful.. you should have more control over yourself. Amz, my long distance relationship is kinda open. my gf and i are cool with any fooling around just no sex.Yes.... and as I said... you shouldn't get yourself into that situation! This whole post is about you having sex with some girl because you were too drunk/stoned/whatever to control yourself!?Surely you must see that you are in the wrong for getting so off your head?Maybe you should kick your relationship, because you seem to want to follow up with something with this girl that you most likely slept with. Does your "girlfriend" know?