So me and my girlfriend went on break, it was originally suppose to be 2-3 months, because she had this issue with not spending anytime with her friends (long distance relationship) but she refused to stop coming to my house (300 miles away) for months at a time.So I made a break so she'd be able to. She told me not to have sex with anyone though while on break, I didn't see why not but I didn't intend to. So I had her promise me she wouldn't and I made an agreement with her I would not have sex with anyone if she didn't.And she broke that promise the first week into our break. Just after I told her the break obviously wasn't working out and I wanted to get back with her soon (after she was finished partying) which apparently she didn't remember because she got drunk.So since cheating is just being unloyal and breaking a promise you basically make by saying out I'll be your bf/gf. Should I consider this, "cheating" or at least as bad. Because she's getting pissed off because I keep telling her she basically cheated on me or was bad.And she gets flipping out on me saying we weren't fucking together and yada yada yada, stop making it out to be worse then it is. So I'll be fair and find out others opinions. Was it cheating or as bad, or was it really nothing.
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Cheating or not?
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That was the most confusing post I've read in a long time.
My Take: Break up with her officialy. I don't think she has any respect for you, or your relationship, andyou shouldn't have to put up with that.
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Easier said then done. I have this weird thing about me.
Basically, I'm a really heavy Emo, but I'm also trying to make everyone happy. And even if she fakes it, if she acts like she's hurt. I'm almost powerless to do shit.
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You're not powerless to take control of your life, and you prolly ought to before she does. Also, it's only cheating if you decide that it is. Since it soundsl ike you both promised eachother to not have sex while on a break, and she did, then it is cheating.
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That's what I thought, because in reality. In relationship. saying your someones bf/gf generally mean you automatically agreed you will not do anything like that with someone else.So even though we didn't officially hold a silly title. She still broke the promise we held. I don't understand why she can't accept that.Because, while it could all be show, she acts like she really does care. But she won't actually hold it as real cheating because we didn't have a stupid title.
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Originally Posted By: Java_AddictSince it soundsl ike you both promised eachother to not have sex while on a break, and she did, then it is cheating. Indeed. There's no reason to question it.
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the way you wrote this post..i dont understnad your situation..
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Dude I say drop her. If she doesn't respect you then get her out of your life. Besides she was the one who brought up the no sex with anybody else rule only to have her break it. It's not worth it. And she SHOULD feel bad. She shouldn't act like it doesn't matter because it does.
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get her sister then dump her!
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Or... don't be a dirty jack ass.
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Ouch. Definetly Cheating. What a bitch