I really want to have sex with my girlfriend but when we have tried, my penis is too big for her. I tried doing it slower and more carefully and we tried many positions but I was not able to get it in. I am really in love with her and because I give her pleasure all the time, she really wants to make me feel good too and she is not that fond of oral sex (which is ok with me). Does anyone have any suggestions of what we can do to solve our problem?
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Too big
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Use your fingers to loosen her up. Start with one and then after a while two. Two should be sufficient. Use a condom. A water based lubricant can be bought in the store which should also really help.
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Well, I did finger her and I can try more fingers, but she also does not want me to use a condom. She is on the pill and she likes it bareback. Would using a lubricant and barebacking be safe or should I try something else?
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It's only safe if you both are free of any STD's. Pills are only safe if she takes them properly. Even if she does take them properly, there is a slight chance of pregnancy. A lubricant will help a lot with penetration, even if she is already wet.
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Both of us are completly STD free and she is very regular with taking the pill. Not to mention, she told me that she would like it if I pulled out and let her swallow. She is a great girl. Thanks for all the help you guys, it is much appreciated
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Anyways how big are you that you are too big for her?
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I am 7.5 inches and very thick (I have never measured the circumfrence
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The difficulty in getting in is probably worsened by her being nervous and involuntarily tightening up, so you should do your best to make sure she is relaxed and comfortable. Once you succeed the first time you'll probably find it becomes much easier.
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KY JELLY!!!....I'm pretty big myself & KY worked like a charm for me. my girl used to get sore before but once we started using it, it's all good. & yeah, it's safe to use bareback (feels pretty good!) as long as you're both clean. As for oral, she probably isn't into it coz she doesn't think she's good at it.. it'll come in time if you're patient with her
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7.5 is a real nice size, but i've been with quite a bit bigger. i think it more depends on the girl. some girls r very tight and small down there, it may change with time and "traffic" or it may not change enough. u may have to find positions and techniques that don't hurt her. U never want sex to be painful for either of u.