I really don’t know how to state this topic without sounding stupid to some people, so bare with me if I say something people may take offense to because it was never meant to come across that way. I know what I want to say in my head and I just hope it comes out right across the screen.I live in a town that is predominantly white with Hispanics coming in second and there are little to none black people around. I was never raised raciest, and I’ve never had a problem with interracial couples; if it’s someone you want to be with then go for it.Now here’s my problem. I met a guy the other night (we’ll call him ‘Jim’) and we both hit it off really well. He’s a very sweet Christian man and I would love to get to know him better to see where things would go. My question is, how does someone go about pursuing an interracial relationship in a town that would be nothing but cruel to the people involved? I can handle my own; I’m not new to the small mindedness of this little town, and my only concern would be him (he’s from a place that it’s considered to be the norm).
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Justing thinking out loud...
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Would personal safety be a concern or would it just be talking behind his and your back as you walk down the street?
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how does someone go about pursuing an interracial relationship in a town that would be nothing but cruel to the people involved? Is this really influencing whether you want to get to know this guy more or not?That doesn't seem right.
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That's how it is in many societies.
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What is? That people aren't understanding of certain types of relationships?That's probably true, but I don't think that should stop anyone from getting to know someone better if they want to.This relationship is between her and "Jim", not society.
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for shame you be attracted to a HUMAN BEING. If they are going to hurt you and you two get along why not pursue it secretly for awhile and if things are well move away if you can continue your life somewhere more understanding and safe. If people might be talking behind your back just go after him. If you two are in love what is the matter? Love is love. At least you are not dating him b/c he is a particular race, I hate it when female/males go after each other b/c of stereotypes like that. So, if you two are safe just date like normal, only thing he has different is his heritage.
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There is no norm! its all bullshit and even in a big city where gays walk hand in hand down main and black and whites have coffee colored babies and politicians dont lie, your gonna have some msall minded asshole talk shit about that fucking nigger fucking the white women.
You have to do whats right for you, and if its him, then hes got to make the same choice. there is no norm, people are fucking scum, live life for yourself, and those you love not to avoid taking more shit form hick bastards.
I was seeing a black girla few years back, went to the wrong bar, I woke up in an ambulance and not only had I beenfucke dup but my buddy was stabbed for helping me out, and they even knocked the fuck out of her.
Tha tended it with her, she couldnt handle it.
Myself, id do it again, just to piss off those fucking redneck mother fuckers, even knowing the beating Id have to repeat.
The first one I hit took a hell of a beating though, he said nigger lover walking behind me to the shitter while I was playing pool, a fast backstroke to his balls, and turning and busting that cue over his fucking head was all worth the ass kicking I got from his buddies. -
It would actually be a mixture of both.I'm used to the people talking behind my back for some reason or another, it doesn't bother me so much anymore because I've learned to tune it out (I've also learned to step outside of my fairy tale world and realize that people are cruel and hateful; I had to learn that a long time ago).I don't know if 'Jim' and I would end up dating (that all depends on if we clicked or not once we got to know one another better)
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one step at a time!Didnt ya see what about bob?baby steps!see if shit works out with him before ya start making the arguments for and against, he may be a real dick that youd want to avoid, or he may be the greatest guy you ever met.no use worrying about tech big shit till ya know theres even a reason to worry.
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If you and he can handle the talk then go for it. Don't let narrow minded people dictate your happiness. As for the physical danger be prepared for it in what ever way you find most acceptable and safe. That may mean caring a gun or a bat that may mean not going to certain places where your going to face danger and be out numbered. It may mean just being cautious and always noting the best escape route.Whether it's fight or flight be prepared and look for the advantage.
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To hell with whatever people think! That's what I said to my dad when he found out Joe was Iranian. If you take a knife right now and cut 'Jim' and then cut yourself the blood that drains for your arm will still be red. You're not a different species. You are both human beings and that's all that matters. And you know something? When I finally stepped up to my dad he got over it and now he loves Joe. I know it's probably not your family that you're worried about but most people are going to give you crap until they figure out that you just don't care. So, my love, pursue it with all your heart and don't let anyone get in the way of it.