Would you break up with a guy whom you believed that you loved and wanted to spend the rest of your life with, just because you went to different, far-away colleges?plz tell guy/girl
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Would you break up if...
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I don't think something like this is as easy as yes or no. Long distance relationships are hard to keep together, but it's not impossible. It'll only work if BOTH of you want to make it work. It's going to be hard because the both of you will be meeting new people and have new experiences.So, would I break it off? Probably.
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I have a slightly different problem, I want to return to my Uni and finish my Engineering degree, but I really don't want to move away from my girlfriend. I'm afraid we might drift apart, and I firmly believe nothing in life is worth losing her over. Plus, not being able to see her everyday would be a killer.Mind you, we have both been to Uni before (we met) and have experienced everything it has to offer. We're both more mature than you're average 18 year old, and in a relationship far more serious than most high school couples. So we'd probably make it work, despite the fact we'd be apart for 2 or more years, and if it didn't work, it was probably for the best anyway. I just hate that thought.
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I wouldn't even think twice about breaking up in a long distance relationship. I wouldn't even be in one to begin with.
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Wow.. I hate to say it.. but, I refuse to have a long distance relationship.. I might try to make it work with my current gf especially if neither of us had a choice.. but, well.. more often then not I think long distance is just too much hassell..Have you considered getting her to try to move closer to the University then yall currently are?I mean I know it sucks when you go from having sex 3 times a day to not even getting a hug once a month..(note.. I am not saying sex makes or breaks a relationship.. all I am saying is that the physical aspect of a relationship is very important.)So I dunno.. thats a very hard choice.. Are you absolutely sure she won't move? or maybe you could transfer to a closer university?
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Long distance relationships aren't that hard, they're just annoying.
I'm 15, I had my first long distance relation ship at 13 second at 14-current. It's really not that difficult if you really wanna be with that person. -
That's all about personal decision really. If you want to be with someone for companionship, a long distance relationship will be highly difficult for you, always knowing you can't see them or hear them, or feel them. And then if someone else near you or them comes into the picture, and one of those love triangles starts to happen...long distances can be very hard on some people.I'd say keep that in mind
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_I'm 15, I had my first long distance relation ship at 13 second at 14-current. _
Sorry, I had to laugh.
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I never found anyone I wanted to be with really till I was 28, and a few months of her and she dumped my ass, she was the only one to ever dump me. course they all thought it was their idea to dump me, but that was due to me making them think that so I could stay on good terms and fuck their friends and sisters.took me till I was 32 after that to find another one I really wanted to be with and looking back, knowing what i know now, I didnt want to be with the bitch that dumped me.
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Originally Posted By: TheFallenLightIt's really not that difficult if you really wanna be with that person. You're still a young teen. You have no idea how hard it is when college and life gets in the way. If you were ever in a real situation like this, you'll realize how silly that comment is.
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Me too
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Oh yes, working on a farm all the time, while doing school stuff, while making team practices every week that's 70 miles away because I live in the fucking boonies, while barely making enough money to travel as it is. Really does make it easy to have a relationship with someone 300 miles away.Not to mention on top of all of that I have to get my G.E.D and License this year. Besides you having a few years on me is barely enough to clarify having a better idea over life then I do. And while I myself hasn't been to collage obviously, my brother has, and I've learned allot from the situations. My brother ended up owing me 1000 dollars because I bailed him out of holes he put himself in that I could easily avoided, back when I worked for people.If you really want to be with someone, distance is no issue, the only issue is your patience.If you toss away relationships with people you care about because of inconveniences then be my guest, but that doesn't mean others must.I'm sure you must think this is just a story from some kid trying to be a big shot, but I assure you, it is not.
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1: Attacking her for stating that experiences in life change drastically that first year of college is no reason to attack her. I will agree with her on the same premises. So, shut your trap.2: Until you do something yourself, you'll never totally get it, no matter how close your brother is. 3: Quote:If you really want to be with someone, distance is no issue, the only issue is your patience. Wrong. The issue is your patience, the other person's patience, and factors outside both of your controls, including finding someone else more convenient or desirable.4: Quote:If you toss away relationships with people you care about because of inconveniences then be my guest, but that doesn't mean others must.And neither you or I or anyone else can decide that, even the people involved, because every moment you're with someone, the situation at hand can change. Nothing is for sure, not even marriage.5: Quote:I'm sure you must think this is just a story from some kid trying to be a big shot, but I assure you, it is not.Her advice is applicable regardless what you think she thinks. it's still 100% accurate.
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This thread is rather sad, because it has turned into people arguing that their view is the right one, and putting others down for having a different view, when the original poster just asked for individual opinions. If you tell someone his/her experience and opinion count for nothing, you can hardly expect that person to agree with you.
Different people have different experiences, and different personalities. Some couples make a success of a long-distance relationship, and some don't. There's no 'right' answer.
I think there's been too much lately of the attitude "you're stupid for holding a different opinion from me". It doesn't help a discussion get further.
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Relax, I wasn't saying your comment was invalid or stupid. I meant it as, you just don't understand because you're still young. That isn't an insult.
What you'll understand later in life, things happen that are out of your control. People change over time and want different goals than before. What's more is that you'll be meeting new people, want to experience different things, and still have to manage your life (work and/or school). Sometimes, it's hard trying to keep a relationship to that sort of mix. This is why it's usually diffifcult having a long distant relationship with two people in two far away colleges.
I'm not saying it's impossible, just very, very difficult for both people.
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And while I myself hasn't been to collage obviously, my brother has, and I've learned allot from the situations.
His experience isn't yours. Yes, you can learn from other people's mistakes but it's very different if _you _were in the same situation.Quote:
If you really want to be with someone, distance is no issue, the only issue is your patience.
Not even close. Life is the issue. What if you have a test coming up for college you need to study for? What is you need work over the weekend? What if you can't afford the gas for your car or the plane ticket to see your girlfriend? Or what if your girlfriend already made plans and can't see you? The possibilities are endless and they can happen.Quote:
If you toss away relationships with people you care about because of inconveniences then be my guest, but that doesn't mean others must.
I never said anyone should. But it should be an option that should be considered. Sometimes, it is indeed for the best for both people. It's better to be happy seperated without having the other person miserable waiting to see you again. It itsn't fair for both people. Never take people for granted. But again, I'm not saying long distant relationships are impossible. -
Not even close. Life is the issue. What if you have a test coming up for college you need to study for? What is you need work over the weekend? What if you can't afford the gas for your car or the plane ticket to see your girlfriend? Or what if your girlfriend already made plans and can't see you? The possibilities are endless and they can happen.Gee, these all sound exactly like the same situations that everybody on the planet face, with slightly different names.I might not be in "collage" and working at a paid Job on weekends.However I do go to "School" and I do work daily on a farm. Aka unpaid job =/, but must be done regardless. And the gas money issue is always there. So I took your life situation and placed one that was very similar in most ways, and blam. Now I understand the situation fine.But now I'll throw out one you haven't seemed to adress. How far away are the collages. What is this persons term of a long distance relationship.I know some people refer 50-100 miles as a long distance relationship and thats a couple of hours to drive, not that big of a deal.I mean all kinds of issues can come up in long distance relationships, but just as many can come up even if your mate lives in your town.