Ok, I'm not going to chat on for ages about our relationship troubles and such.Ok, me and my girlfriend have been in a strong relationship for about 1 1/2 years now, and we're very close to eachother.We have practically been together every single day of these 1 1/2 years together and i still love my girlfriend very much, i think the world of her.. Despite many big arguments and despite her cheating on me twice (once with my best friend =/ )But we have got past that and have advanced.. One thing i find though, as i later clarified with my girlfriend's two week vacation to spain, is that it seems that i miss her a LOT more then she seems to miss me, i remember when she was on holiday she pretty much wanted to get on with it and enjoy herself, but me on the otherhand wanted her back as soon as possible, i missed her so much i even cried some nights. I phoned her up at least four times everyday seeing how she was what she was up to and make sure she was ok. Whilst she only rang me about four times in total throughout the whole two weeks (money is not a problem here, so phone bills are irrelevant)What i generally find is that my girlfriend generally seems to cope better alone without me then i cope alone without her.. I think its probably because she's more mentally stronger than me, and she has had a better childhood, teenager life then me, not to mention more relationships..Even lately, i haven't seen her in five days and i already miss her mad yet she doesn't seem to be running into any problems without me..I have already probably phoned her about 30 times in the last five days and just saying that sounds obsessive.What i want to know is how do i calm my nerves, and try to loosen out a bit and try to not miss her as much, whilst at the same time trying to get my girlfriend to 'miss me more' ? I am not talking about the whole 'treat them mean, keep them keen' scenario, i generally want to feel that she misses me more, i know she loves me but i want to know that she is thinking about me a lot too.How can i psychologically change her attitude so that she misses me more? a typical scenario would be to not call her so much and she would soon miss the attention and come 'crawling back' I think i need a majority feminine set of advice here as obviously you women may know the answers..Any other guys out there know some sophisticated tricks (that aren't coinciding with the silent treatment skills )Hope all of this made sense... David
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Just a little advice needed
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You can't trick her or get her to miss you more...that's insanely ridiculous and stupid. I'd dump a guy if I found out he was trying to do that...I actually dump a guy that obsessed anways. You can't smother her.
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For a moderator, that wasn't very helpful, or pleasant. Thanks for a bad attitude there.
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It was helpful and my own opinion. You can't trick someone. That's not right. People need space. She was on vacation. Let her have time by herself. You can't become a control freak or obsessive over a person. It's not good or healthy for you, and definitely not good for the other person.
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Alright David, I think you are too emotionally attached to her that even after she cheated on you twice you stayed with her. Plus maybe this is a sign from her that you are growing apart.
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I agree with Amanda, and I think you have a real problem. Ringing someone up six times a day is obsessive. What's more, it is the sort of thing that drives people away. Her calling frequency of twice a week was much more reasonable. You are over-clingy.You need to improve your independence - you are looking to other people to hold you up, and that's not healthy. You should be able to stand on your own feet like your girlfriend can.