so, ive been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months.Shes pretty much my only real girlfriend and i do like her.Some things in life shes had to deal with (father abandoning her while young etc) and because of this became quite independant. For this reason she likes to spend alot of time alone. I don't think i'm being over-pushy or clingy or anything, i just want to see her. We go to the same school, live 10 mins away from each other and i see her at most once a week, if not once every fortnight. I hope im not alone but i think this is quite a low amount of time that we spend with each other. It's not like she doesn't WANT to make time for me, she just doesn't seem to want to change her lifestyle to accomodate me (will still meet up with her friends quite a few nights of the week and stuff, but won't rearrange one to see me, or make a bit of time for me).When i brought it up with her she did the whole 'promise it'll change i'm just not good at relationships, im learning' thing.. which i accepted... But that was when i was really wanting to be with her.Now, i still do really like her, but im not having the same urges to be with her, hence im not wanting to continually ask if shes free or anything... If i do ask and she says 'no im having alone time' or something, it just makes me feel less for her and pushes me further away...I'm not sure what to do about it, ive tried talking to her, ive tried being harsher saying it cant continue like this and giving an ultimateum, but now i feel less for her, i really don't know what to do.Any ideas?(sorry for the essay)
Not sure what to do
It sounds like neither of you have particularly strong feelings. Perhaps the relationship should be allowed to fade naturally.
Yeah, during your school life relationships are never good. It is because a guy takes a relationship far more seriously and girls, in general, would rather be with their friends or other, then make time for us dudes. It happened in my last relationship and is a bitch.
If i were you, i would call it off. If she really liked you she wouldn't be putting you through this.
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