I dont care if this is 1 of 19383939 posts that are just like cuz i have a unique question too.Ok im bi, and well every now and then, like when i hang out with my freinds who are girls, they'll ask another guy to come along, and of coarse if he's hot, ill think he's hot, and ill wanna do something to give a hint i might be bi, but not enough of a hint where if he's straight he'll hate me.Problem is, its not cool to come right out and ask or say you are. Also, im not a attractive guy, so even if the guy was bi, i dont think he'd like me anyway and ide probably get my feelings hurt. I mean ive even been around guys i know are bi and they know im bi but they never do anything so it hurts....But other than asking the girls who know the guy, what is really a way to stimulate a convo or even a joke about being gay/bi...I mean like other day i went to the movies with a guy and a girl.The guy was kinda ugly and looked like Weird all yankovic but i couldnt quit thinking of him.And i tried my best to do things that might make him want to sneak a peak at me so i could tell what he thought.Like during the movie, ide act like my dick was itching or something and well put my hand down there to scratch to see if he looked or anything, but he never did.But i was joking around with the girl and saying something like "you know...wink wink....i haven't gotten laid in a really long time" in a really joking voice and allAnd then he was like "well you can do me" joking voiceand i was like "wow..." then laughed.But im wondering....if a guy does joke about something like that, and you think he might be secretly serious, like i would wanna reply "yeah you know it baby" in a really joking voice, and see what he then says....cuz idk....its confusing.Anyone with actual experiances of acting straight with another guy who acts straight and yall somehow came on to each other and how exactly yall broke the ice?(and ive been at this forum for like 4 years ive seen alotta annoying bullitens and i hope this isnt ona them cuz i really am looking for some real advice, my love live literally depends on it!....i just hope my looks arent whats standing in the way of curious guys coming out to me!)
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How to let a guy know your bi if you think he's bi
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Originally Posted By: Someone youngBut i was joking around with the girl and saying something like "you know...wink wink....i haven't gotten laid in a really long time" in a really joking voice and allAnd then he was like "well you can do me" joking voiceand i was like "wow..." then laughed.But im wondering....if a guy does joke about something like that, and you think he might be secretly serious The only advice I can give you is, I often joke that way with guys but I am completely straight, so careful with that kind of stuff. :P
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Yeah thats true. I have my group of friends. And they all(not me) act "gay" sometimes like they'll slap/grab your ass, pinch your nipples from behind, and try grabbing your crotch. They just play around though because i know all of them(i think, but i think one might be bi-curious or something) are straight and like girls. They even say things like "i wanna bang you" but they're obviously just joking around. So be careful with that. You never really know unless the other person makes the first move, in a way you know isn't joking around.
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yea guys will just randomly grab your crotch
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well the first thing you ahve to realize is that you have no self esteem, im sorry if it seems cruel, but once you stop thinking that your ugly, and have a little confidence it wont matter if the guy is bi staright gay or a freaking homophobe. You need to be confident and assertive and just sk the guy when he is playing along, i would aks after the first joke, but if you two are fooling around for like 3 hours and he is steal cool wiht it, you should ask him back to your place or what ever and see how he responds. it is difficult to get over the low confidence thing, but one you do you'll realize most peopel dont care if your bi they'll just tell you no, and it wont matter to them anymore than that.
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yeah i wish i could tell.
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As above, confidence helps. You'll get no where if you don't atleast try. If you get rejected don't be discoraged from trying again.Also, I'm of the opinion that about what 1/2 people say jokingly is actually true so take things as a joke but there are always underlieing messages. If he said in jest that you could sleep with him, he can't be totally against the idea as it was obviously in his head.
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have to agree with c'n'c, if you don't go for it, you'll never know... if you get rejected, then so what? If people make fun of you, then, ignore them, your true friends will understand, and that's all that matters, you don't want other people hanging around anyway, trust me on this... I used to try and make everyone happy all the time, there's no point, all you can do is live the best life you can and hope to make other people happy with your own happiness :smile:
I'm not bi, or gay, so I can't claim to understand, but, I do have friends who are, I even have a couple of "aquaintances" who are VERY homophobic... I know these people not because I choose, but because I work with them... and I do not hang around with these people by choice (these are the sort of small minded people who make fun of me because they don't see me with my gf very often (she lives in another country entirely) to the point where they try to goad me into cheating on her... which will NEVER happen), but, you shouldn't be afraid of people like this, and none of my real friends worry about a persons sexual orientation... yes, we joke about it, as men, it's what we do, but don't be disheartened by this, humour will always be humour... and look on the bright side... by being bi, you have literally doubled your target audience :wink:
Hope you find what you're looking for... be it a man, a woman, or someone in between :wink:
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Well see the thing about being ugly...I don't have a very low confidence, im always really funny and outgoing around people, just...I know i am ugly. If i weighed 300 pounds I would know I was fat, and there's really no lie to that. People have called me ugly, even freinds just joking around, my whole life and its just something people think about me, and like you said, jokes are always 1/2 way true becuase its in their head. It wouldn't be if its not true.But other than that, I know from experiance that even if a confident guy came up to me, told me he was bi and liked me, and i found him really ugly, i would probably get grossed out and quit talking to him because I know from experiance that "crushes" really don't die easy. And i think thats what grosses other guys out. Yeah Im sure they wouldn't care if your bi, my freinds don't, but if i liked them, im sure theyd be grossed out.And if you sit there and say "hey are you bi?" and their like "umm why??" and you say "well I am" then it sounds like your coming on to them. And there's really no right way to just say you're bi randomly unless a freind says something.
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You've had malicious people keep telling you you are ugly until you believed it. They probably never thought you would, because you're not, but it's remarkable what repeated suggestion will do.
