i never had sex before and i will do it tommorrow night can anyone give me advice on how to give pleasure to your mate without mastubating really fast?
Sex is a natural thing, you'll figure it out. Don't put too much pressure on the first time, it isn't always what we think it should be. Take your time, don't worry and focus on making sure youur partner has fun, if it happens too quick, the next time will most likely be better. It takes 2 people working together to really be good!
Use warm lubes! Just focus on feeling the natural curves of their body, and make sure you don't do something for too long. Sex gets boring when that happens, and when you're not spontaneous. If you feel like you're going to cum too soon, trying gently squeezing the area just underneathe the ridge of your head with your thumb and pointer finger.
People come, people go.
DON'T be down if your first time doesn't go too well.
My first time didn't, she wasn't "ready" (wet enough) and I couldn't get it in. We were both pretty nervous too. We decided to try it the next night instead and it happened.
All I can say is make sure the girl is plenty wet enough, use plenty of foreplay, a lubed condom is probably best too. You can also add some lube to the condom yourself, but there are some types of lubes that will actually destroy the material of the condom so you have to be careful!