Im new here, and im kinda in some deep shit and thought maybe someone could help me out a bit.So pretty much there is this girl, of coarse, and i love her. like i never chase anything, or put up with anything that causes drama, but i do for her and i dont know why. The story is we were together for a while, close to 6 months, and then i had the great idea to dump her cuz i just was having a bad time and we were fighting so much. now, about 3 months later im still in love with her, and i dont know what to do. We hang out a lot, and she tells me she loves me to, and im perfect, and all that kind of stuff. We kiss, hold hands, cuddle, ya know the usual. The problem is that lately she just takes everything so seriously and gets mad at me for just about everything. Now when she gets mad she just leaves and that makes me feel like shit and like she doesnt care about me, but she always tries to say she does. I really dont understand it, but she doesnt want a relationship because im going off to college in a few months and she will be left here, and she says she cant deal with that, but she says we can pretty much be together minus the title. So i dont see what the difference is cuz she is still going to feel the same way about me. She also says we cant be together cuz it would piss a bunch of people off, and i say i dont care because they shouldnt matter, so i feel like she is choosing them over me. She is almost always a jerk to me too, but i cant help it, i love her. i cant think about anything but her, and i dont know what to do. I tell myself i just want to have fun, so she is a jerk and i tell her off and she leaves, then it kills me and i come crawling back and she is a jerk again. i dont know what to do, please help
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well from what you've said about her.. I don't know why you love her. I think you need to ask yourself that question. Why do you love her? Is she sweet, kind, generous, friendly? It sure doesn't sound like it. Are you sure it isn't LUST instead of love. It's very easy to confuse the two and in most cases people do.Think about this... if she was an ugly old wrinkly woman and still acted the way she did, would you still be with her?
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Quote:The problem is that lately she just takes everything so seriously and gets mad at me for just about everything. Now when she gets mad she just leaves and that makes me feel like shit and like she doesnt care about me, but she always tries to say she does.If the reason why you broke up with her was because of fighting, and now, you STILL fight, what in the right mind makes you think things are going to change? Did you talk to her about you feel when she makes you feel bad? Does she understand the situation? If she did truely cared about you, she would have learned to tone down the arguments. Quote:I really dont understand it, but she doesnt want a relationship because im going off to college in a few months and she will be left here, and she says she cant deal with that, but she says we can pretty much be together minus the title.So, in other words, she only sees you as her cuddle bitch/punching bag. It's a clear sign that she doesn't want you as her boyfriend. You need to get out now and move with your life. You deserve to be treated better than you are now. Quote:She also says we cant be together cuz it would piss a bunch of people off, and i say i dont care because they shouldnt matter, so i feel like she is choosing them over me. Another clear sign that this isn't going to work. Quote:She is almost always a jerk to me too, but i cant help it, i love her. i cant think about anything but her, and i dont know what to do. I tell myself i just want to have fun, so she is a jerk and i tell her off and she leaves, then it kills me and i come crawling back and she is a jerk again. i dont know what to do, please help You need to open your eyes and see that this isn't a "relationship". You have to stand up, get your self-respect back, and walk away from her. She doesn't love you. Sorry, but she doesn't. And you don't love her either. You're just infatuated with her, which is blinding you from her serious faults.Get out now. You're still young to find love again. You're going to college soon, which is a great opportunity to meet many new girls.