Men....

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are so violent when they greet each other! what's wrong with you guys? I understand if you don't want to show "too much affection" but you guys barely hug! You like.... grab each other by the neck pound each other on the back and all in the midst of that you might see an embrace if you're lucky. It's funny but... my gosh it looks so painful. You basically abuse each other just to say hello. It's like "hey what's up bro" punch, kick, slap, break, knockoutI know this isn't all guys (thank goodness..) but it's a good amount.I just find it interesting... the way guys greet each other. And it's even worse when they greet a female right after because they squeeze the life out of you... must be the testosterone still pumping or something....I swear if my back doesn't mend...

wait what? Lol When did you witness said hugging style? All my guy friends, and all the guys I've seen usually do the man hug. Ya know, when you shake one hand while hugging with the other arm? I've only ever the "violent" hugging when it's in jest.

this afternoon coming home from school lol I was with my cousin and he saw one of his "long lost" friends who is also one of my best guy friends and they basically beat each other up but they were laughing and were so happy to see each other. then the crazy bull hugged the daylights out of me. I thought I was going to snap in two.

It's all about the hand shakes...

Me and my buddies always have the handshake where we just shake hands then bang shoulders and hit each other on the back... not that barbaric. Unless its a drastic situation.. guys hugging each other is not socially acceptable. It's "gay."

it is a bit funny now that you mention it. I greet different male friends with a handshake to rough housing to a full and heart felt hug. I couldn't really say what the rule is, it's just spntaneous.Most of the women I know also appreciate a firm hug over a delecate wimpy hug. But you're right, I have to bear in mind that I'm quite a large and stong guy so I need to avoid breaking petite girls in half lol  Quote:guys hugging each other is not socially acceptable. It's "gay." yeah, yeah, get over here for your bear-hug ya cupcake

Originally Posted By: TechnichalUnless its a drastic situation.. guys hugging each other is not socially acceptable. It's "gay." It's official. I'm gay.Seriously, you can't really believe this. I have several close male friends (most of them in Louisville). When I see them, or when I'm saying goodbye to them, we hug. Not the stereotypical, 3 pats on the back hug..you know I'M...NOT...GAY... We hug. Embrace. Both arms wrapped around each other. No shame in our game!

I can remember feeling a bit wierd about expressing affection for male friends when I was younger. As time passes, I've come to realize that some things are more important than others, some messages more important. If I feel the need to hug a buddy, it's because I need to communicate his importance to me. That message is more important than some unknown witness thinking we might be gay.Now, maybe I'm starting to sound like a SNAG, which I'm so totally not, but I just put the thoughts of my friends above the thoughts of strangers.

lol that almost sounds awkward "hey, what's up homie"

I guess because I've heard it in so many different ways like
"yo waddup homes"
"what it do bro"
"waddup my nig" :fearful: etc etc

Mr. U, I don't mind a nice firm hug unless it gets to the point where you hear your spine making abnormal sounds. But it almost seems like some guys don't show that much "affection" for fear of being labeled gay? I'm just guessing.

yea, I don't let my friends get away with that lol. they feel so bad when I'm through with them.

Quote:what's up blood? what's up my nig?you may not believe this but noone ever greets me like that... weird eh? thanks Rad

LOL me and my boy always say "what up nigga" when we greet each other.

Lol we do that thing when you hold your hand out infront of you and they grab it, then you pull yourselves towards eachother and hug/pat them on the back with your other hand.And sometimes there's manhugs when we say goodbye, but that's only with friends who are, like me, confident about their heterosexuality.

It's the culture. In europe, for example, it's a different story. We have a homophobic culture (here in the US) where we have to watch what we do...so it's no surprise greetings have gravitated towards more physical, non-effeminate displays. In europe, many men not only hug, but kiss as well. You won't catch me doing it, though...my heritage is Scandanavian (ie, NOT europian). We're on the "cool" side as far as public displays of affection go. Out of the public eye is a different story. :grin:

Originally Posted By: unsupervisedI can remember feeling a bit wierd about expressing affection for male friends when I was younger. As time passes, I've come to realize that some things are more important than others, some messages more important. If I feel the need to hug a buddy, it's because I need to communicate his importance to me. That message is more important than some unknown witness thinking we might be gay.Now, maybe I'm starting to sound like a SNAG, which I'm so totally not, but I just put the thoughts of my friends above the thoughts of strangers. Word!(what's a SNAG?)

SNAG = Sensitive New Age Guy

Quote: In europe, many men not only hug, but kiss as well.aww snap! I'm going to Europe!

LOL! :smile:

Originally Posted By: IneligibleSNAG = Sensitive New Age Guy Thanks.