A little while back i posted something about my mom being over protective and how its going to affect me when I'm at college.Anyway I'm in a tighter situation now. My gf's prom is coming up next Thursday. She and her friend made a plan to go to her friend's beach house the next day for the weekend. So they got the an adult (the friend's older cousin) and permission from their parents. And here's my dilemma. I asked my dad if i could go. He said its alright PROVIDED I get permission from my mom (which simply means he's ok with it but won't give me full permission to avoid dealing with my mom). At first my mom gave a quick no, but after some thought gave said I could go as long as she came to supervise. The problem is my mom is over protective, awkward, and a kill joy. She's the type of person who would sit in the corner, listen into all the conversations, follow us everywhere and tell us everything we could and cannot do. My gf and her friend can't stand my mom (same with almost all my friends. She just acts awkward around them. She's also very judgmental of people and will but into any conversation where she feels something "inappropriate" is being talked about.)Well I thought I'd give her a quick test to see how she would act if she came. I asked what she would do if we wanted to go see a movie at 10 at night. She immediately said she would not allow it or any other late night activities. It's basically this kind of attitude that would annoy all my friendsBasically, if I can't convince her to stay home my gf and her friend will KILL me. If she goes everyones going to be really awkward whenever shes around (which is about %100, not including bathroom breaks) or possible even get mad at her and do something stupid.On a side not, this goes back to what will she do when I'm in college. I'm still afraid she's going to freak out while I'm gone or stop in for random, unannounced visits at inconvenient times.Thanks for the help in advanced.
It would seem that your mother's going there is not going to be acceptable. Since it's not your beach house and it's not your mother's beach house, she can't go there without an invitation from its owner, which doesn't seem likely.Since presumably you rely on your parents' financial support for college, and their house for living at present, you're not in a strong bargaining position. You might consider what would be the likely consequences of going anyway - it can be a lot easier to get forgiveness than permission.Your mother isn't likely to freak out while you're at college. Her type tends to be more concerned with proprieties than people, and while you are at college she is likely to consider you no longer her responsibility. That doesn't mean there may not be visits, though.