For the ladies...

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if u were in a relationship nearly a year, and realized that you werent attracted to the guy anymore, "Physically," but he treated you better than any other boy ever could, would you break up with him or stay with him?

i'd stay i think. thats a toughie.

Well I wouldn't stay with him just because he treated me better than any other guy. That's not really fair to him.

it depends, are you in a sexual relationship? and eventually you probably will be anyway, but if you arent attracted to him then itll probably show eventually. what you should do is look at WHY you arent attracted to him anymore and see if its something fixable. if its purely a physical thing, maybe hes gained a bit of weight then exercise with him. but if its in your head then you need to look at why and find a way to fix it and if it cant be fixed then talk to him about it and see what you both should do

ima guy btw... my girlfriend did this to me.... her explanation for it was that im "not her type" and she had hoped that i would maybe grow on her or her type would change. but my point of view is that after a year, shouldnt you know if there your type or not? and now shes already talking to 3 other guys im like "what happened about the time where ur sad about your relationship? your not supposed to just start talking to other people right away are you?

oh thats very different, if youre still together, dump her if youre still friendfs, leave her in the dust it doesnt seem like she has any respect for you and yes she shouldve known a long time before that and had the decency to end it and the refractory period for people varies

i cant just leave her in the dust i still love her and want to be her friend this is just so hard 4 me....she says she still loves me but that i will never be her type i just dont know what the hell i'm supposed to do? its so easy for you to type out "leave her in the dust" but this has been my best friend, life partner, lover, and more for a year! its too hard to just throw all that away.

wow and shes flirting with 3 guys as far as i know and she says more but she wont tell me how many more or there names.... dammit i hate life god did me wrong...........................................

It takes time. You'll find a better girl.As for your original question, it depends. I'm terrible on answering those questions because it's such a simple question but the answer is too elaborate. But down the line, I'd probably leave.

or maybe my parents were smoking 2 much crack and weed and just fucked upp on me...... what can u expect. they were my age now....

You feel like that now, but you'll be happy in the future with someone who does respect you.

yeah but like right now, im texting her and she is crying over me..... what the hell did i do now i feel terrible for that too..... i am not going to just leave her in the dust tho....

She sure cries a lot for a girl who's flirting with a bunch of other guys. Maybe she's just playing a game with you.Dude, don't be her cuddle bitch.

thanks for the title i really appriciate it....

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I wasn't giving you a title. I said DON'T become one.

oh okay. i have no idea what a cuddle bitch is but....

any tips on getting over someone?

A "cuddle bitch" is a male friend that a woman has to cuddle and cry on his shoulder and complain about her problems. The guy usually thinks they are working towards boyfriend/girlfriend, perhaps are already there, but the girl sees him just as a very close friend and it will go no further.I think the best way to get over someone is to immerse yourself in other parts of your life.

Sorry, a cuddle bitch is someone who's there for a girl whenever she needs some sort of emotional support. But the relationship will never grow into something more.As for tips, give it time. Try to do activities that will get your mind off of it.

thank you pete, for that very...um... defining. definition...she wants us to still have a friend relationship but its gonna be so awkward because when my step mom found out we broke up she told me "oh i never liked her anyway, she isnt good enough for you, shes not pretty enough blah blah blah" i swear i was about to slap her i hate her but thats not what this thread is about so ill shut up about her....and thank u virtual, is this a very negative thing or is it one of those macho "men dont cry" things?

Originally Posted By: terifiedand thank u virtual, is this a very negative thing or is it one of those macho "men dont cry" things? To me, there's nothing wrong with a guy being sensitive and caring. But when he completely gives up his self-respect to let her walk all over him, that's crossing a line. No girl is worth that. I think it's nice you care a lot about this girl, but if she isn't going to return those affections at the same level, it's time to let it go.Nothing wrong with being friends, but don't let her make you feel guilty.