So ive been in this relationship with a girl i love for the past 8 months. I know everyone throws the word love around like its nothing but i really do love this girl. I actually get irritated when people throw that word around because its so overused and if i did not love her i wouldnt say i did. But she was different from the start and ive known her 9 years and she always was different, gave off a different vibe and i never knew what it was until we got together.Anyway everyone always told us sex would change everything and it would ruin everything for us. Her mom mostly, but her mom did not want us to have sex and shes such a paranoid bitch she thinks we are going to drop out of college have kids and get married at the age of 18, she doesnt understand we have brains. So this whole time she tried to scare us telling us it changes everything, and that we will realize that we were just horny and we just wanted to fuck.Anyway it actually worked. We were scared to have sex because we thought it was some bad thing that ruined relationships. Last friday we decided to find out for ourselves and it changed everything. But in the most positive way imaginable. Not only was making love to her amazing but it answered so many questions for both of us. All insecurities disappeared, neither of us have any worries anymore. It also brought us so much more closer together. We gave each other our hearts and souls months ago and when we found the right time and when we were comfortable enough and close enough we gave each other our bodies and virginity. I know it sounds corny but im a romantic sap. We have been making love ever since last week and it is amazing. We have both become so much more comfortable, it answered all of our questions and it just brought us so close together. Our sex life is perfect and improves everytime we do something. We are so in tune with each others needs and we are caring and dont stop until we are both fulfilled. It changed everything her mom was right, but we were not just horny kids who wanted to fuck, we are young adults who are in love and wanted to express our love for each other in a physical way. Im just so happy we proved everyone wrong that thought we were to young to be in love (18) and that thought we were just horny. I just wanted to make this post because its the only place i can talk and express myself and thats what the site is for.I know we are young and it is rare for people our age to actually be truly in love but we are. She is my first love and god i hope she is my last. I want to marry her someday (after college). We are smart kids and we are going to school and everything before we ever get married or have kids. I know im young but im very grown up for my age and i understand alot of things. I may not fully understand love as it takes time and experience but i am experiencing it right now and i am learning. She could gain 200 pounds, she could lose all her teeth, hair, whatever, i will always love her as long as she stays herself and is always that women i fell in love with, looks and anything physical mean nothing to me. I accept her for her and i truly love her.Just thought i would express my happiness here. This wasnt so much a sex post, it was a sex, and love post and like always i got carried away. Anyway i shall go, thank you all for listening and putting up with my rants like always!
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Sex changed everything!
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I understand her parenting, but this women takes it to another level i cannot even begin to explain. No one in my family, none of my friends, my bosses, anyone that knows about her do not understand her. She has some major mental issues and i dont want to get into it now but this lady is out of this world.Her mother tells her daughter "Please let me know when you are ready to have sex so i can get you birth control"We become ready and she tells her mom and her mom starts threatening us, telling us we are going to ruin our lives, we need to wait etc etc, tries to scare us that it will ruin our relationship, and refused to get her daughter BC.Ok if you dont want us to have sex, just say 'As her mother i would prefer you guys wait until you are both 18" and its totally understandable and a done deal and we wait. But why tells us to let her know or tell her daughter to let her know when shes ready to have sex and then when her daughter comes to her like a good daughter and ask her freak out on her and deny it. Its like why offer the protection in the first place if your not going to really give it to us.Most kids just have sex, they go to the gas station buy condoms and have sex. Or they get drunk at parties and have sex, alot of kids have unprotected sex. You would think her mother would be grateful her daughter came to her for BC and that i use condoms and that we are safe and protected when we have sex. Instead she denies the BC and tries to scare us with stories. I understand parents being protective and im not just saying this because im her boyfriend and i hate her mom, her mom is nuts. My mom hates her, my sister hates her, my whole family hates her. Her daughter hates her, her sons hate her and both left the house in their teen years (13-15) everyone hates her. She has major issues to work out. She is so mean to her daughter and her daughter (my girlfriend) does nothing wrong. I forgot the story but they got into an argument once over something silly (i think my girlfriend spilt something and stained the carpet) and her mom held her down and punches her for a few minutes. She is completely crazy. Like i said the whole post is for another day when i can handle thinking about that women but she is out of this world.
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Ive never once been mean or rude to her mom. I hate her deep down but when ever im over at her house i respect her because its her house. I always ask her how her day was and sit down and talk to her and im very kind. I would never be rude to her, for one im just not like that and 2 she has the power to take my girlfriend away from me. I know i have to accept her also (unfortunately) but atleast i get the best reward i could possibly ask for right?
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Well thank you for the compliment! I truly love this place and its like my internet home. Im glad people here like me and feel im a good person, your not too bad yourself you know You have helped me alot!
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It's really good to hear about such love. Some people get cynical about love, but they are wrong!
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Most mums are like that. It just takes time to build trust, just treat her right, even if she doesn't treat you right and you'll eventually grow on her.Nice little things like flowers on her birthday are always good too.
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Good for you guys. I'm glad there are other people out there who choose to wait untill they're in love to have sex for the first time and make it a positive experience. One thing about being in love when you're a teen is that some older people will be abit condesending and brush you're feelings off as puppy love or a phase. I'd look at it from her mums point of view, her baby is growing up and not under her control anymore. It might be hard for some parents to accept their teens turning into adults....
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I understand her parenting, but this woman takes it to another level....
I'm going to be a smartass because I'm bored. :smirk: If it's one female, it's woman. If it's more than one, it's women. Heh heh. :grin:But the real point is to say I'm happy for the both of you. :smile: Looks like things got better after running into that wall in your relationship. Though, I will say that sex doesn't solve everything.
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Haha thanks for the correction.No i dont believe it solves everything, but it helped answer some personal questions. We still have our problems, but we are working on them little by little. Shes working hard to fix her problems and im fixing mine also. Sex just solved the insecurity questions, not the whole relationship.
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Originally Posted By: MMAfighter90No i dont believe it solves everything, but it helped answer some personal questions. We still have our problems, but we are working on them little by little. Shes working hard to fix her problems and im fixing mine also. Sex just solved the insecurity questions, not the whole relationship. Very smart.
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Honestly.. I would just let most of the stuff her mom says go right over your head. She does sound like a nut.. but at the same time you do need to still respect her... shes still very protective over her daughter.. the same way most parents are still protective of their 17 year old.Congrats though. That made me really happy. I have to admit I creeped your myspace last week when u made ur post about ur 1st time... You guys look SOOOO happy and PERFECT for eachother .. at least thats what your pics say