Recently it seems like people I know are trying to sabotage my attempts to meet girls. I can't quite figure out what the reason is.Any time I ever have managed to strike up a conversation with a girl recently someone somehow manages to come along and deliberately say something inappropriate which pushes the girl away.I am soon to be going on holiday to Ibiza, and I'd like to have the freedom to chat up girls etc, but at least 3 separate people (girls) have told me that they don't want me to.Now they aren't interested in me (this has been made quite clear to me in the past) but some still get almost angry when I say that I might try and chat up some girls when on holiday.Why would they be doing this? It feels like a conspiracy.
Well, if these girls aren't anything more than your friends, I would just not listen to them. If they aren't romantically interested in you, they shouldn't have any say in if you chat with other women. Who really knows why they're doing this. Perhaps you should ask them why they don't want you to be chatting with other women?
Heh cool thanks guys :smile:
Perhaps you should ask them why they don't want you to be chatting with other women?
I did ask. One girl asked if I was seeing anyone and when I said no she seemed over the moon and really pleased.
Another (who is on this board and I am sorry but you confused me!) gave the reason that they want me to stay a virgin because "it's lovely". (I'm 24 by the way!)
Another just gave the reason "cos girls are bitches - I should know I am one". It's so cryptic!
No none of the girls are going with me, though a couple of the guys who seem to interject with inappropriate comments are going. I dunno if it's because they'd rather try it on with the girls I'm talking to.
That brings me to another issue actually - my housemate is coming on holiday along with a girl that I like (and have for a long time). A couple of years ago I asked her out and after thinking about it she said no - but things have changed since then and I wanna take another shot at it - but my housemate also wants to try, and I dunno what to do.
We were all out tonight and he was flirting with her (as she was flirting with me) and it made me feel uncomfortable. I don't wanna stitch him up if he stands a better chance than I do, but I dunno how I'd cope seeing him being more successful with her than I am.
If your friend is also interested in her, I'd just leave it. No point in jeopardizing your friendship with him over a girl. There are many other fish in the sea.
There's an old saying: "All's fair in love and war" ... so, IMO, if you want to go for it with this girl who your friend is also interested in, as long as there is currently NOTHING going on between them (and I do mean nothing here, remember the friend card, you don't want it torn up!!) then, play on... though, personally in this situation, it'd be reliant on what kind of friend it is... if it's the friend who always gets the ladies (we've all got one) then I wouldn't worry, whereas if it's the one who meets and keeps, then maybe I wouldn't go after her.On a side note, I knew my gf for ages before we actually met, and I have had a very good female friend for years, whom I used to talk to about pretty much everything, though, since my gf and I actually met in the flesh, she went a lil bit schizoid at me... I won't go into details, but, suffice to say she and I don't speak anymore... perhaps there was more to our friendship than I believed... to me, she was like my sister... to her, I guess I'll never know, but anyway, my point here is that your female friends need to be clear on why they're telling you what they're telling you.Also... Ibiza??? ... c'mon... what happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza!! There aren't going to be many people who know what went on there, and I'm sure they'd keep their mouths shut if you asked them to but in the end: whatever decision you make has to be the right one for you, do whatever you believe is right in your heart, and things will work out for the best
"Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world." -- Buddha
Well I'm back and nothing happened, so all those girls fears are alleviated! My cherry remains intact and over-ripe.