To put it plain and simple, I have no friends. By no friends, I mean that I have no one to pick up the phone and call and see if they wanna do something or go somewhere. Sure I have people that I talk to online and AIM and all that. However, whenever I ask them to hang out they always have plans or make plans so they aren't available. I'll tell you, it hurts, it just hurts real bad. I don't even have anything to do that I can make friends somewhere. I play hockey but everyone on the team already have their friends and seemingly don't need anyone else to hang out with. Everyone else just seems to not like me, and I know it can't be me. I don't do anything that would make someone not want to be friends with me. I'm nice and friendly to anyone I meet. Now it's summer and I'd love to be out doing stuff with friends and going to the movies every night. But I don't have anyone to call to even talk to. I hate just listening to the AC run all day and think of all the time I'm losing. It's just depressing and I know the summer's just gonna end and I'll have done nothing and it'll be one more year gone. The thing is, before I moved I had so many friends. On any day I could pick up the phone and call 30 different people and have 5 people to hang out with that day and go do something. Every year on my birthday I'd invite 12 good friends. By good friends I mean a kid who knew everything about me and I knew everything about him. We'd eat pizza and go see a movie and then go back and have a huge sleepover. Those were the days, and I miss it incredibly and I wish I could have it all back. But I can't and now the next 3 years until I'm 18 are going to be hell. I don't wanna be 65 and be thinking to myself on how I missed out on all the fun and now I'm retiring and I'll probably die soon. It makes me wonder what the point of life is, if you don't have friends. I just feel so solitary and I'm nowhere near a solitary person. I just can't stand to be alone. I hate it. Life just sucks.
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No Friends
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I used to be just like you, trust me. I had no friends til my junior year of high school. (last year for me) All I did was initiate conversations with other people. Attend every social event you get a chance to attend. Continue to be nice and friendly. It will come with time. For example, I had no friends but people told me about how they were meeting up to play volleyball or frisbee and I would always go every chance I got. You know why? Because I wanted to have friends bad. I hated sitting in my room playing Halo all day. Some people just aren't raised to be very social. I haven't even really had a girlfriend yet. You just got to work for it. You can't wait for friends to come to you. You have to go and make friends. What you do is just find someone who already has a lot of friends that you think is cool and after playing volleyball with him or going to a party and seeing him there, ask him for his phone number and if he would maybe want to hang out some time again. If someone refuses, their not friend-worthy anyway.
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I don't like going to the dances and social events anymore though because I have to go alone. I always feel awkward and weird going alone to anything or going around with my parents or family. And I've tried initiating conversations with people and either get completely ignored. Like by ignored I mean not even a response or a head turn. Other times when I've initiated conversations the person either says "yeah" and then starts talking to another person.
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This town I moved to is utterly pathetic.
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There isn't much to do here in my town by the looks of it, but a lot goes on behind the scenes if you know what I mean. We have fun, smoke, drink, play football, volleyball, board games, watch movies, etc. We just keep each other entertained.
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It's not the town that I meant was pathetic. It's the people that live in the town that are pathetic. There's a countless things to do in my town except I can't find a fucking worthy person to do shit with. They only wanna hang if you're drinking and/or smoking. And yeah I like to party, drink, smoke, etc. Except I'd like to do normal activities like the ones you named every once in a while.
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Okay, first and foremost, I want to point out that there are non-alcohol and non-smoking activities that you can do that are a lot of fun. Like bonfires, fugitive (I wonder if that's just a Nebraska thing), video games, movie nights, sports, camps, concerts, fishing, etc. And also, some people may not hang out with you BECAUSE you smoke and drink.
And you should definitely join sports and other social activities to meet and hang out with people (they HAVE to hang out with you if you are practicing together). And maybe you are too young to get a real job, but do they have detasseling where you live? Because again, it's just another opportunity to meet people... Although if the size of your town is relatively small, and you already know everyone, then it's more of an opportunity to get to know people. And always talk to everyone, even people who you don't really like that much... Because if you get one person from a group to really like you, that's all it takes to get invited to stuff.
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My advice would be to join some clubs in your school, try out for your next school play, or a sports team. Common interests always seem to spark a friendship for me.