Who has a drinking problem.He has SUCH a negative reaction to every bit of advice that anyone has ever given him. He is autistic, I think around 22 and wants to be able to live independently. Right now he lives at home with his mother.I can sure put up with a lot of negativity. I listened to a few over the years, and have managed to see growth. But this guy, IDK, I just can't stand to hear it. I want to help, but I want to help with that "magic pill" sort of help....I feel SO horrible, but I had to start basically ignoring him because it was driving me insane! I feel like I let someone down who could REALLY use the help, but I figure I am useless if it is driving me batty, and I become angry.How do you guys hang in there for so long with someone who is so negative all the time??? How do you continue to see potential even when there is little/no growth in them??? BTW, it is no one on this board..just in case someone feels ignored, and thinks it is them.
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So, there's this guy...
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Yeah it's you Mr Negativity!! Stop raining on my parade!!!I know EVERYONE has their limits, but I admire those whose patience are seemingly endless. I wanna know what they have that lets them do that!!I rarely feel guilty about things I do, but this one is getting to me a bit...
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Hmm...I never thought of that. Let me roll that around a bit more and I will get back with ya on it.At the moment though, I think it is more of whether or not someone wants to change/get better, vs. the guy who justs wants the sympathy...Loveability, maybe...
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I think patients has to do with a certain detachment sometimes. I don't mean that in being distant or not caring or in a clinical manner, I mean... like you don't invest any of yourself in their recovery, or change or growth.I don't really know how to say this...It's kinda that the ends shouldn't be the justification for what your giving of yourself. He is who he is, and you are who you are, and your giving of yourself to him because you care not because you expect him to change.The way I'm putting this sounds bad and I don't mean for it to come off that way.If the support you offer is without expectation then you won't be waiting for some change that may never happen and if you, yourself, aren't waiting for that change then your patients may not be so thin.
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You know what. It doesn't sound bad at all. Your right.
It goes to expect nothing, but, I do. I expect to see change, as that was what he wanted when he asked for "my shoulder"...amongst many.
And there is no change.
I was going to ask "where's Scotty when I need him" lol, because of the alcohol and autism issue...but you came in with something else valuable.
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Steal his license. Nuff Said.
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Steal his license? What are you talking about?
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HUH???
You made NO sense...