Thrown through a door

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So my dad went on vacation for a 4 days with my sister to go look at a college. He told me to take out the trash and feed the cats everyday. I had to stay at my moms the whole 4 days and go back each day to do that. Well I forgot to take the trash out on trash day. I cleaned my room the following day because he had told me to. There was a ton of garbage from my room I had to throw away (school papers, water bottles, etc.)So I filled up like 2 full trash bags. My dad comes back and finds out I forgot to take the trash out. Tells me to follow him outside and he grabs both trash bags shoves them in my face and pushes me back threw the door and then gets in his car and drives away. He told me to put the bags in my room. So now my room smells like shit and my arms all cut and my ankles are cut from going through the door. Is it illegal for him to do that?

I don't want a report him though because he's a great dad when he doesn't get pissed off. That's why my mom left him. He explodes when he gets mad. I may just have to put up with this until I'm 18 and then beat his ass if he tries to hit me.

Legally, this was an assault, and a serious one. It's not something a father can legally do.However, to take it to the police is a big step, with other consequences - it could mean that you will be unable to stay at your dad's or have any more contact with him. I think it would be important to get some good advice from someone experienced in your area. Perhaps a school counsellor might be a start.Sometimes the treatment is worse than the disease and it is better to leave things as they are, if you can stand it. Sometimes, on the other hand, almost anything is better than doing nothing. Finding out what the options are and talking it through with other people can help you decide.

Im sorry but i didnt really think that someone can talk about someone being "stupid like a retard" and THEN talk about the ten commandments in the same post. I'm actually offended here. Usually religion topics don't bother me. but bringing religion into this, just after talking about someone being a retard.. is pretty shameful. in my opinion anyways

to the o.p. this is child abuse. you NEED to talk to someone to get this fixed. Or things could get worse and out of hand. then what?

I would not suggest fighting your father. Not even hitting back. Unless he's one of those "wow, I can't believe you just hit me. Great job son" kind of parents. But it just doesn't end well. My brother threw a punch at my stepdad and he beat the CRAP out of him. Maybe you should talk to him about it first. Let him know that what he did effected you in what way.

I don't know if turning my back to him would be a good idea. Because he's libel to push me in the back to the ground if he's mad enough. I mean he's usually a cool guy and he pays for my sports and does a lot for me. It's just when he gets mad he resorts to physical violence. I mean he's never hurt me THAT bad that I would want to report him. And reporting him to the police would just be awful because I'd have to move from this huge house and all my belongings and go live with my mom in a tiny apartment. Also I wouldn't have any money for college, support when I'm older, a father to ask questions, and sports. This is the worst he's done to me. Mostly he'll just smack me off the head hard to enough to knock me down. I guess it's made me a lot tougher but it's hurts more emotionally than physically. I don't know what to do really. It's only 3 more years and I'm already taller than him and closing in on his weight, so he won't be able to push me around in a year or two. Like I said before it's only when he's mad and then I honestly think he feels bad for his outbursts.

Well what should I do? Talk to him or someone else? Or try to not mess up as much?

I don't want you guys feeling sorry for me. It's not nearly as bad as other kids have it. But I am thankful for the sympathy. What went through my mind when he confronted me about not taking out the trash, was "Should I try and lie so he doesn't get mad at me or should I tell the truth and see how he reacts." I went with lying hoping he would believe it and be calm but then I quickly fessed up which I'm not sure whether or not had to do with him pushing me through the door. I mean I told him straightforward that I lied because I didn't want him getting mad. And that's when he grabbed the bags out of the bin and screams "Don't fucking lie to me!" and pushed me through the door. I think he thinks that I ignore his commands. But really I don't, I forget very easily unless it's of vital importance to me. It's not that taking out the trash is hard either. I actually like doing it because I skateboard everything out and it takes 5 minutes.

Thank you.

I would agree with ineligible's suggestion of talking to a school counselor about it. Be advised though, that they are required to act on certain things. If school's out for the summer, you can still call em up, they usually work all summer.

Damn dude... Throwing you through a door is crossing the line! Like comon man, I can understand an angry backhand or something, but that's just brutal man.