I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a while now, maybe 3 months, about once a week, and it's still very painful.
It's not an issue with lubrication, we use lubricated condoms, he fingers me before, and we've tried lube. But every time after around 5 minutes its a really bad pain. It kinda stings and its kinda sore, mostly just around the opening. It usually lasts for 30-60 minutes after.
He's not rough, and he's not really large or anything, so I don't know what the problem is. Should I be worried?
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Really Painful?
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Are you comfortable? Or do you think about the pain and worry about it?The body reads the mind. If you get nervous and think about the pain, your body will constrict a bit and make it harder for you to enjoy.
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I don't really think about it at all, until I start to feel it. It's not that bad during the actual sex because there's the pleasure there, and it doesn't normally start until we're kinda finishing up, but once we stop I can really feel it.
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If the pain comes after sex, then that seems more normal. Especially if you have many sex sessions or have rougher sex, your genitals will feel raw and tender.ADDED: But if the pain is really bad and is always after each time you have sex, then maybe a trip to the doctor would be a good idea, just to be on the safe side.