Ok So Ima 15 year old girl in high school, and all i want is for one guy to really like me. Im still a virgin because im trying to save it 1. Untill I meet the right person and were together for a long time 2. I kinda want to wait till im out of high school and 3. because i dont want to be a lil high school slut, like alot of girls because most everyone in high school isnt a virgin. So I will let a guy kiss me and suck on my tits and i will let him rub me down there ;)(out of my pants) even though i dont like my vagina, and im selfcouncious about it , and Im kinda teasing the guys and I know being a tease is bad but I cant help it. I think all guyss want to have sex cuz that is wat is on alllll guyz minds these dayz, and Im trying to find a cute guy (cuz looks matter to me) that doesnt wanna have sex, and that just wants to be my boyfriend. Alot of people say to me that i will meet the right guy someday but Is that true or is no guy going to wanna be with me? I dont think im thatttt bad looking. Maybe you guys can give me an opinion. heres my myspace.... Myspace.com/entermyreligionSo I guess my question isss.. Will I eventualy meet that one guy that wants me for just me and not the sex?? Cuz All the guys I knowww just wanna have sexxx.. or just be friends. I feel like Ive been waiting for that special guy for a while though. && Im not trying to be racist or anything but I mostly like black guys even though im white, and its harder cuz alll black guyss think about sex and in my opinion if im not a pretty black girlll than they wont want me for me.P.s. I lovee to cuddle && makeout..Those are my weekeness hehebut It just makes me sad how thats all guys want to do.. And if they dont wanna do it then i will be stuck with the uglyy guys that just like me and i kindaa want a cute guys because i have high expectation. What should I doo?
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Im a tease (everyone look)
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So, basically your looking for Mr. Perfect? You know, everyone has flaws, not everyone is perfect... To me you sound a little egocentric,but thats just me, and if your just going to worry about looks, it's going to be hard trying to find the perfect boyfriend. And about the "guy who doesn't want to have sex", yes there are some guys like that out there, but just remember that all guys have a penis.
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I don't know really what to say for you to try to do. i will say this, not all guys are for sex. (well i guess they are but not.... i dk i'll explain) there are a few guys i have seen post that they want to wait till their older or married. so those guys are out there. as for looks... i dk i dk what those guys look like. i'm guessing there are attractive ones and not so attractive ones willing to wait.And I guess there are others that are like me….. I was willing to wait on my girl. I wanted to have sex with her but I was willing to wait until she was ready. …so no not all guys are after just sex. Do they all want it..? Yea.. But some are willing to wait and others aren’t.
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Well it's reaaaally tough to find a guy who doesn't eventually want sex to be a part of the relationship. If you seen Superbad before, then the guy I'm thinking about who wouldn't want sex is Evan. That's the type of guy you'd have to settle for if you didn't want them pushing sex.However, I may be stereotyping guys like that. You may get lucky to find a nice guy who you are attracted to who isn't a horny bugger but I would say 95% of guys want sex. Some want it quicke than others while others are willing to wait.
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Don't worry, those guys are out there. My boyfriend now, we started off like what you've described, he's super cute, and it was his idea to hold of sex for a while (which just made me want him more). All we did was cuddle and make out, and occasionally i'd get him off through his pants (i like making guys cum in they're pants, it's super hot). You just gota be yourself, make yourself available, but not at the same time. When you find a guy you click with, flirt lots, hang out in groups, have him get to know you. Because the guys who bother to get to know you first, are the ones worth your time. And you're young, guys in highschool usually just want sex, because they're curious and full of hormones. Dont rush yourself into a relationship. They get better as you get older...well as the guys get older. I hope that helps.
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As a guy, I'm somewhat offended by your post. No, not all guys only want sex. I'd rather have a strong relationship with someone over a night of sex. To find the right guy, perhaps you shouldn't put out so soon, not let him feel you up and whatnot. You're just making these guys think that they can have sex when you're letting them do these things. Also, you really are stereotyping people. Not all black people think about sex. You're completely wrong on this. So what you need to do is stop leading people into a physical relationship, before you begin an emotional relationship. Eventually you will find a nice, good looking guy that doesn't just have sex on his mind. Believe me, they aren't all that hard to come by. You're just leading people into thinking that they will get some by being with you, and stereotyping males too much.
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Im sooo sorry If You guys think im erigant Im totally the sweetest person! Im sorry for offending anybody.. So I should stop being a tease? right?.. Can I still make out and cuddle???and thank you guys soooooooooooooooooooo much for Your advicee!I loveee You allll =) Muahh
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Teasing sends out the wrong message. Boys will take it as meaning you want sex, and either feel frustrated when they can't get it, or be repelled if they don't want it yet.
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Ok.. and sorry for sounding so coincted =( now I feel ganged up on...But I reallyyyyy honestly didnt mean to hurt any feelings. may I rephrase that ( all The guys I talk to wanna have sex) sound better?
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wait what do you mean??
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Yeah Well.. I didnt mean to say it like thatt.. I kinda just needed to vent, Otherwise I just wanna be a girl that makes it out of high school a virgin,,cuz most girls arn't virgins. And I kind of dont want to be like everyone else, Do You know what I am saying?
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That's fine but teasing guys is pretty much screwed up. If you don't want sex, then don't lead them on. If you want to wait, then do so. Don't worry about having sex with the right guy, right now. When you find him, you'll know.Besides that, everyone else said what I wanted to say.
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Ok Now i knoww thankss..But is makin out and cuddling teasin too??
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Whatever floats your boat.
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Well.. I wanna stop bein a teast but if kissin and cuddling is teasin then i should stop right?
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It's HOW you present yourself that misleads. Kissing is fine. Cuddling is fine. As long as you don't take it any further than that, then you should be good.
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Ok thanks forr thee help eveyonee.
You guys have really helped mee =)Thanksssss =) :smile:
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LOL Ohhhh Girl, I've been from your age...sweet 15? Wow! I'm a Christian gal, 28 , still virgin and enjoying my life with my profession as a Nurse...I'm proud to say that I have a very awesome Christian Boyfriend 32, believe it or not he's also virgin...we do some silly stuffs but not to the extent that we need to go beyond our limits because our principle is to reserve our virginity and have sex after marriage...All I can say is that You're still very young...there are so many things to think about in life. You don't need to rush, my dear:) Time will come that Mr. Right will come your way who will like you and love you just the way you are...just be yourself. Focus on your studies and and join some groups that can drive you away from being so curious...Hmmm I heard a qoute saying: "Curiosity Kills the cat" when I'm at your age, I am more curious about the world but my parents helped me to get through from those stuff, I enrolled dance class and joined a music band...I was able to finished my college got a good job as a nurse and a dance choreographer lately but i turned it down and joined in a business ventures...Now, a lot of men lining up to get my attention but sorry to them...I have My Precious Baby Mircea in my life and looking forward of what God has in store for us. And to you, Young lady...Being a teen only happened once...Enjoy every moment of your life and know that everything has it's own special time...In God's perfect time:) Take care!
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Originally Posted By: bubblelicious92Well.. I wanna stop bein a teast but if kissin and cuddling is teasin then i should stop right? If you're not dating them, and you're randomly having make out and cuddling sessions, I'd say that you're leading these guys into thinking that they can A) get sex, or B) be in a relationship with you.
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Quote:and its harder cuz alll black guyss think about sex and in my opinion if im not a pretty black girlll than they wont want me for me.Oh lordy lordy lord you dun said it......I don't think about sex all the time(though I'm 24 now, at the time I didn't). I was more into other things like sports, games, and hanging out with friends.Also depends on their enviroment upbringing, but I had a thing for light skin chicks since I was a kid( and now). I honestly have no clue why either, guess its the environment. That or when I was in school, all the black kids made fun of me while the white/other race kids left me alone or were more friendy to me. That's probably the reason for me.