Do ALL guys think with their penis?

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I know this might not be the right place to put this. But whatever, to me it suits it.

Anyways, I'm pretty much in a relationship with a guy who i see rarely, but when i do i enjoy ALMOST every minute with him.

When he's with his friend they ALWAYS CHECK OUT OTHER GIRLS. like WTF!! and its not tasteful either. I hardly ever get to see stephen and when i do there ALWAYS checking out other women in front of me. i fucking HATE it. to me its disrespectful because its SOOO NOTICEABLE. We went to a concert on saturday and EVERY FREAKING GIRL that walked by was stared at. meanwhile i drive FOUR hours to see this guy for only a few days in the month and he's busy staring at other women =( to me its like.. "what.. am i not pretty enough to be looked at like that? =( "

i now it might sound childish, but right now it is bothering me because i have NEVER noticed how much men can be pigs sometimes. like, if hes in love with me, i want his attention :frowning: i dont want to feel self concious. because i do horribly. regardless if he checks out other girls or not. but when he does this it doesnt help at all!!!!

So answer my questions.. do ALL guys act like this? to me its as tho women are just put here to be stared at and i really dont appreciate it. is it wrong for me to be a little jealous and upset? i feel like he should be looking at me =( id NEVER EVER act like this if an attractive guy walked past. because id feel as tho it might upset him. :cry: to me, when i see him, hes ALL i see. so why cant he return the favor :frowning:

Quote:Do ALL guys think with their penis? do ALL guys act like this?is it wrong for me to be a little jealous and upset? Do they think with their penis? You think just becasue we look at a woman we want to have sex with her? Not quite.Probably most everyone will check out the other sex. I've been married for almost 20 years.. Have always check others out and always will. When I'm with my wife, you try and be tactful.If you are getting upset and worked up over this, then I would say it's "more" of an issue with you and your image.Of course, it's rude of this guy to blatantly check out other girls in front of you especially at this point in your relationship. Is he in the same "relationship" level as you think you are?

sorry. no i dont automatically think that. im just so angry =(

the thing that calmed me down was that i kept thinking "you know what, he says these girls are good looking, but IM the one he loves. IM the one he kisses and is going home with"

but i just think its incredibly rude to be talking to a guy im falling for and seeing him stare at some other woman. his friend is SO annoying when it comes to staring at women. so i think thats one of the reasons why hes like it too. i want him to act himself around me. i dont want him to feel like hes a completely different person around me. i kinda want him to figure out on his own that i dont like it and he should cool it down a bit. i dont want him to only act like that around his friends and act totally different around me. i mean, he saw one of his friends at the concert and he started poking her boobs RIGHT in front of me. WTF!!! she told him to stop tho. but still =(

i dont wanna be THAT kinda girl whos controlling, but i just want him to realize i dont appreciate it. you know?

oh no. he does love me. its not just one date. we've been talking for months now. and we've talked about our feelings in the past. and he says hes falling for me hard. i just made a post about saying "hes all mine!!" lol.

you guys are so harsh today =(

It's not that we are harsh, we don't know what he is thinking and you didn't give us the history.. Maybe he's just rude? The boob poking was innappropriate and out of line.

it does sound like he needs a lesson in what NOT to do while in a relationship, if im with a girl sure ill look but i wont make an effort to stare or anything like that. and even if i was best friends with a strictly lesbian girl and had some little inside joke about touching places id knock it off when i had a girlfriend thatd just be rude. but to him it may seem harmless. so you should probably just talk to him about the things he does that hurt you but try not to make it seem like hes the bad guy just that some changes need to be made.

Probably has something to do with his mates too. A lot of guys act different around their friends when their girlfriend is around because they're afraid of appearing "whipped".

I don't know anything except what's in this thread...but as somebody said, poking boobs in front of others (private might be different) goes too far. You need to draw a line against that right now out of self-respect. If you don't respect yourself, he probably won't either. It's something that can, and most likely will, change over time...and not for the better. Before you know it, he'll start talking down to you, too. You don't want to go down that road.Next time have him come see you...that way his friends won't be around and you should have his full attention.

yeah hes planning on driving in to see me on the 19th. sigh im gonna ask if he can come in a bit earlier than that too. i really dont want to wait another month to see him. its only a 3 hour drive.

Of course all men look at attractive women. Just as much as women look at attractive men.You shouldn't have to feel inferior to other women. You are a pretty attractive catch yourself. You just need to keep this in mind all the time:  Quote:the thing that calmed me down was that i kept thinking "you know what, he says these girls are good looking, but IM the one he loves. IM the one he kisses and is going home with" I'm not trying to to say your feelings are invalid, but this issue is more about you than it is him. You need to try to overcome your insecurities because it's not healthy, both for you and the relationship. You need to trust him if you want this relationship to continue.If you guys are as open as you say, then talk to him and see what he says. But you can't really be mad at him for being a male...for being human.

i agree its an issue with me. but i also think that his friend may be influencing him to look as well. because when he isnt there hes not like it as much at all. but its not 100% me.

but its incredibly annoying to be talking to someone and have him stare off at someone else.

my self confidence hits the bottom sometimes. and he does make me feel beautiful, but at times i just feel like crawling away somewhere.

can someone please help me get over my self esteem issues? i mean, i feel better about myself because ive lost a bunch of weight the last couple months. but i hate looking at my face and my body in the mirror =(

Yeah, then talk to him and tell him it's more of a self-esteem issue rather than the jealous girlfriend issue. Hopefully, he'll understand.Ugh, but where is this reversed self image coming from? You're hot! And not to mention funny and sweet. And the fact you like video games...I mean, what guy wouldn't want you? You bake the most awesome cakes I've ever seen!I really wish I could say something that could help you. All I can say is I hope soon, you'll see yourself as the same beautiful and awesome girl that everyone else sees, including your new man.big hugs

my self esteem is absolute shit. lolbut ill admit i do get a little bit jealous. but it is mostly an issue with myself. hes told me in the past that i was the most beautiful girl he's ever known. and yeah haha. i think its a bonus with him that im a gamer. i promised id make him a mario cake the next time i see him he actually has a mario tattoo. its pretty fucking sexy too. i wanna yoshi one but yeah i do realize i need to bring it up. but in a way i want to deal with it myself a bit. mainly because im a bit afraid he might get upset. sigh im rambling a bit. but i really appreciate your advice virtual big hugs

Ashley, your self esteem really shouldn't be shit, I just have to say this because, we all suffer from not feeling amazing about ourselves... I'm a little pudgey (I clock in at 94kgs, and I'm 178cm, which means I have a bit of a belly) but, I'm always assured by my gf that I'm a hottie, as she is to me, but I've discovered that we're always our own worst critics... if my gf can find me attractive then I'm sure I can't be as bad as I think, and think about it... you're with Steve, so he must see something in you (and I'm not being rude to all those who do think solely with their penis! lol) and, if you talk to him, he probably doesn't think he's a super catch, when you evidently do... as I say in so many of my posts, it's all about communication, just try to be open with him, and he'll open up to you, even if it takes time, and if you have issue, talk to him about it, even if you say you know it's because of your self esteem, as a man, he should be able to understand the concept... I'm not saying we're great at things like that, but on the whole, we do try to understand and help at least, I'd like to think so As for him acting differently around his friends, well, he just doesn't wanna seem pussy whipped, but you do need to explain that some of the things he does are offensive to you... after all, he shouldn't need to prove to his mates that he can find an attractive woman, because in his mind, he should already have one in you, and his friends should see that he thinks that you are beautiful, I mean, yeah, of course he's gonna look, he's a man, it's difficult not to sometimes, nomatter how attractive you think your partner is, I think my gf is the singular most beautiful person I have ever met in my entire life, but it would be a lie to say my eyes don't get drawn elsewhere sometimes... but then, it's only through my seeing other women that I realise just how beautiful my gf is to me, because no-one could possibly compare, and I try to tell her this ... maybe this is something that all men could learn, cuz damn, falling in love with my gf, it hit me like a locomotive... BAM! and I have to tell her whenever I can, because I can Also, I do like the reassurance myself, so I like to give it out, with little hints that I'd like some back heh heh heh... As a woman, I'm sure you can find a more subtle way of doing that than my usual nudge "tell me you love me" nudge approach lol

is it possible the transition from friend to girlfriend hasnt been fully realized in his head? maybe at those times he still thinks of you as a best friend instead of a best friend and lover? i know when me and my girl got together we would both slip up and talk to the other as we would as friends (commenting too much on the looks of another person of the opposite sex) hell we still do it but obviously it has less of a sting now. so yeah just bring that possibility up with him and obviously ask him to tone it down, basically just tell him you love that hes your best friend but youre also his lover

I think with it, Its unnatural not too. Don't take offense to it, its just him seeing whats out their, does that make you insecure???

a bit yes.

when im with him, hes all i see =) and when im not with him, hes all i think about.

You should join in and rate the chicks they look at.My last gf and I always rated chicks we saw.

....no thanks. we're not objects to "rate".