Pregnancy scares me

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Hey guys. Well the title pretty much says what this thread is about. I'm really afraid of having a baby. the thought of having a child inside me makes me feel stomach sick. the labour part frightens me, along with the entire pregnancy. i dont know, the thought of feeling a person kick in my belly gives me chills. both my mother and grandmother have had complications when they were pregnant. they both almost died. mom almost died when she had me, and nan almost died too. could that be a factor? anyways, is anyone else like this too? ive wanted to adopt for a long time now. not just because of the pregnancy bit, but because i would love to take a child and give him or her a home and a family. guys, if you wanted a child with a woman who was afraid, would it be a turn off? or would you consider adopting for her sake?thanks for any input here kisses

while i would like to adopt when im able to, i very much want to have a child born of mine and my wifes union...ah screw it, a kid born of me and my wifes hot monkey sex. i would have to think about it but ultimately i think i would stay with her but i would ask to look into every option possible to have a child we made even if we had to use a surrogate mother.

oh my god. no im not pregnant. loli was just wondering why im so afraid of being pregnant.

guys, if you wanted a child with a woman who was afraid, would it be a turn off? or would you consider adopting for her sake?

I would consider it(adoption) if she(or I) was physically not able to conceive or there were some other medical/physical condition that would prevent it. If she, just didn't want to... well then I would have a problem.

Quote:If she, just didn't want to... well then I would have a problem. theres the words i was looking for thank you

i am no where near to start having kids, but, i used to be scared and didnt want kids at all.but i got in the state of mind that; there are SO many people in this world. and they all came from a woman giving birth, so i would never be alone, you know? i guess i just find it comforting knowing there are millions of women experiencing it at the same time i am.. at least thats how i feel.. and i do believe adoption is a good thing.. but i just think having my own child would be such a different experience (and obviously it would), like the changes in my body, feelings, etc. to me i just think it would be so much more emotional

i totally respect what your saying. i dont know. for some reason the thought of having a baby in me, makes me feel sick to my stomach and really frightens me. ive had really scary dreams and shit about that too.

There are actually people with complete phobia of pregnancy and/or labour. The idea of pregnancy I absolutely love - I can't wait til I'm ready to have my own kids, I think it would be an awesome experience I can completely understand why it would freak people out - if it happened, though, your mindset might change - it's not some alien growing inside you, it would be something you made.. I had this discussion with my man the other night. We were talking about if one of us couldn't have kids how we'd feel. I said I'd like to have a donor so I could give birth and all of that, but he was totally against someone else's baby growing inside me... but I couldn't adopt because I know I wouldn't love the child enough...! Lots of conflict!

im the same way, i hate the idea of some other mans child growing in my girlfriend/wife, the odd thing is, i think i might love a child she had before me more then i would a child she had with me from some other man i think deep down itd make me feel completely inadequate.and as much as i want a child of my own, if my S.O couldnt conceive either through getting pregnant herself or using a surrogate womb then id rather just adopt

thats true. i know its not an alien. haha. but just the feeling of it, ughhhh.. gets me feeling sick to my stomach. god.. what the hell is wrong with me? sigh lol

The idea of pregnancy just doesn't appeal to me. The idea of carrying a baby inside and having to give birth just isn't something I've never been interested in. Not because I have a phobia; I just don't want kids. Do you think the idea scares you because of the complications your mom and grandmother suffered?

i understand what you mean. its like.. i dunno, maybe some day ill want them, but right now. i reallly really dont. and yeah, it might be a factor as to why it frightens me. im just not sure. it scares the shit out of me; to put it bluntly.

I have to agree with Amz, I can't wait thill the time comes to make some lil mes. For some reason having a tichy person in my belly has always appealed to me.Sometimes abit of anxiety, such as about what your mum and nan went through, can grow asd your mind dwells on it.

I don't know, I honestly would love to stay in the middle part of pregnancy for my whole life. I don't really know how to describe it, but feeling this little baby move around in your belly and knowing that you are it's source of life, is really the most wonderful feeling in the world! It truly is, and it's something you won't ever feel again...unless of course you get pregnant. And I don't know if it is the horomones, but when I am pregnant I am the nicest, happiest person around.The beginning part sucks because you are throwing up and feel like shit, and the last part of course is the labor....which really sucks. But then they put that baby in your arms.....and again, I can't even describe the feeling. It's just....if there is a heaven, that's what it feels like at that moment.

From my perspective... I'm one of those very few males willing to admit that the one thing I've wanted since I could spell relationship was my own family, and I would love to be there for my girlfriend/wife when I get her pregnant, and I will be, always for her, I think adoption is a good thing, there is no doubt, but that's because (and not for religious reasons, this is my personal view point, so please, feel free to dis me personally if you wish) I don't believe in abortion (with a few noteable exceptions, such as rape, extreme disabilities, and dibilitating illness with no possible cure).I would very much want my gf to carry my child... hell, I make comments about it all the time, if I'm completely honest!! I don't mean to, cuz I know when the time is right, we will have a family, but I know I annoy her sometimesAs to if she couldn't have our child (be it my or her fault) then I would talk about adoption with her, and hopefully we would, if though, it was through unwillingness, as has previously been stated, there would be an issue... not an insurmountable one, because apparently I'm a persuasive guy, but still a bit of one until I figured out a way to be more persuasive heh heh