First off, I wasn't totally sure where to put this. So if it's in the wrong forum, sorry.Okay so my best friend for the past year has been a girl. I've known her for a while now, but we haven't really been great with each other, but now we're as tight as ever. I sort of had a hidden crush on her for a while now, and last night when we were watching a movie, she laid down next to me and put her head on my lap. At first I didn't really think anything of this, but things started to get... weird. I had my arm on the top of the couch, but she kept putting it on her waist for about half of the movie, again I didn't think anything of it. After this point, however, she took a cover, covered herself my my arm, she grabbed my hand and started holding it, and rubbing it. After a few minutes, she then slowly started to move both of our hands to her breasts, and she kept trying to get me to massage them, but her cousin was in the same room, and i hadn't looked at my best friend until this point. She had this look on her face, and she leaned to my ear and said do it. I sort of panicked and didn't do anything. She then kept, I'm going to guess to make it seem like she was scared from the movie, pushing my hand up against her chest. After this movie was over, she got up and put in another one, I removed my arm and placed it back onto it's original position on the top of the couch. When she laid back down, she pulled my arm back under the cover and placed it on her breast. I kept trying to move but she didnt want me to so I ended up just leaving it there. I didn't massage or squeeze or anything like she wanted, but then she started rubbing my crotch. She said that she wanted to give me a handjob. She kept playfully whispering in my ear "where are you..." At this point, I was a little freaked out and was unsure of what to do, so I just moved her hand back into my and we just held hands on her chest until I had to leave. I didn't really want to do anything because I thought it would ruin our friendship forever. What is even worse is that she has a boyfriend, and when I asked her why she was doing this, she said "He wouldn't know plus you're my best friend and you always come first." As I walked out her door, she gave me a hug and said "I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to force anything upon you" and I still felt bad for the rest of the day because I had gotten an erection from my best friend. She said that it wasn't a big deal to her the next day, but I felt like it was. What should I have done? Did I handle the situation correctly? What should I do if I have another instance like this?
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Me and my best friend
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You had a decision to make and you made it. No one can tell you whether it was right or wrong. She offered more, but you weren't ready. There's nothing wrong with that. And,... she may be thinking of you as more than just a friend.
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Thanks for the words guys. I think in the bottom of my heart I didn't want to do it because I know her history of dating and the longest she's gone out with a guy is only 6 months. I didn't want to turn out to be a guy she only liked for a week or two, and then get thrown out. I would rather stay her friend for the two years we have left together in school rather than go out for maybe a month. Hopefully this feeling of liking her will go away eventually.
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It sounds like you've got a good grip on the situation. How old are you btw?
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We're both 16, I'm turning 17 in a month. I'm just not really sure about the things she said about why she wanted to do it when she already has a boyfriend.
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Sounds to me like she might be very confused herself about what she really wants.