Feel like your not attractive enough for your partner? Lately ive felt like my girlfriend so too good looking for me. Shes absolutely gorgeous. She got a great curvaceous body, full lips, beautiful smile, eyes to die for, gorgeous hair, shes got everything. While i feel just.....not good enough for her.I just have alot of insecurities about myself and its hard not to get hung up on them sometimes. This happens every once in awhile i just feel like bleh. Its mostly my height im hung up on, im 5'4 maybe pushing 5'5 and i just hate it. Girls have always told me "You would be soooo HOT!!...........if you were taller" or "Your going to be so hot when you get taller" im just like ummmm thanks?I just dont understand why i cant be "hot" at my height. My height just makes me "cute" and i hate it. I dont even like being told im cute anymore. And i know sometimes cute can be better than hot but i feel like people mean "baby cute".Sure height plays into attraction but ive never thought a girl was ugly because of her height. If shes hot shes not whether shes 5ft tall or 6ft tall. Ive always dated taller girls and this is probably the first thats shorter than me (5'1).Anyways i just look at her and think how gorgeous she is and then i look at myself and im like .... I know love has nothing to do with looks and it doesnt too me. My gf could be fat, toothless, hairy, whatever as long as she stays the same i'l love her. And she feels the exact same way.She thinks im hot, she thinks im sexy, cute, handsome all of that, and she says im ridiculous for thinking i dont compare to her, she says we are equal and admits to have feeling the same way before (that im too hot for her).It has nothing to do with her, its all me not liking myself and not feeling adequate. Ive tried to point out what i like and yes it works sometimes, and somedays i do feel attractive, just lately i havent.Is there anything i can do to change this? I know i have to accept myself but its not as easy as it sounds, are there like exercises for this or something lol?
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Is it normal too...
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If you werent perfect for her then u two wouldnt be going out. juist think of it that way.i am the ugliest guy in my class(in my opinion)and ive had more gfs than anyone in the class so most of the time it is whats on the iside
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Positive thinking.But as you said, easier said than done.
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Well if your gf said that you ain
t got nothing to worry about,if she loves you the way you are and thinks that you are hot then to hell with what other girls say,you ain
t with them,your with her.And also its not a good thing to be insecure about yourself believe me that
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I am 6ft 3" and i'm incredibly lanky, i believe this to be because i'm so tall my muscles are covering a far greater area, so being your height, i believe, would make me more stockier. My exercise for overcoming my insecurties, of which i have a couple, you just look at every minute detail, every Indication of interest a girl gives you, be it a double check whilst walking on the street, a girl laughing at your jokes, someone wanting to sit next to you, a hug and you just think;It's cos' i'm fucking burning hot!(I apologise for the swearing). It works for me. I have a mole of my face, not a 3 dimensional one like of Austin Powers but it's a slight insecurity, as well as a very lanky body but i'm not bothered by it and i've dated some hot women! You've just got to really boost your ego and take every scrap of affection as someone wanting to tap you.
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It's possible you'll still gain more height, particularly if you're still in Puberty and not entirely done with your growth spurts. Maybe you're just Late Bloomer and will endup taller eventually.