Well, the subject says it all. And when I say long distance I don't mean like, 2 hours away, I mean across the country or even over the border into another country. That should say WASTE not wast. XDThat's not a word silly! XD
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Are long distance relationships a wast of time?
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I wouldn't call them a waste but in the end I really don't think they work out.I would never enter into a long-distance relationship with someone because we'd be living completely different lives! I mean, sure we would e-mail and talk on the phone, but it's not the same as seeing them and just purely being in their company.However, if you do love this person, and you guys are dedicated to each other, you never know, it might just work!
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well it depends on if they were together beforehand or not. like, my parents are together but dad lives 5000km a way for work. but they're still together. he comes home for the winter and stuff. but hmmm... its hard to categorize ALL relationships and say that they will or wont work out. ive been in a long distance relationship with a guy who lived about 9 driving days away. we went out over the summer and tried to stay together, but he cheated. so in my experience. no they dont work out. but it all depends on how devoted each partner is =)
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So... What I think is that if it doesn't work out then it is in fact a waste of time. I've been in a couple long distance relationships, they didn't work out, some guys around here are interested in me, but I'm not in them, I turn to the net, they chase me. >.>It's odd... Heh... Just wanted to know if it was a waste.
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I was assuming it was a new relationship. I'm not saying that I'm fully against long-distance but it's just so hard to put so much trust in one person. Having to do that would have me running in the other direction...
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I was young, and incredibly stupid for falling for the guy. it was a semi new relationship, we dated for a month or so. but even so, it was my first boyfriend. so it fucked me up a bit. lol
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I think it depends very much on the circumstances, and how much you're willing to trust a person, and how willing you are to get to know that person for who they really are...... I'm in a long distance relationship, pretty much as long distance as you can get, I'm in the UK, and my gf is in NZ, we've known each other now for almost three years, now, something like this wouldn't work indefinately, especially if you couldn't see that person all the time, fortunately for myself and my gf, I was already planning on moving to NZ when we met, so we've always talked openly about things, and a few months after i met her, I had to confess that I was falling in love with her... I knew right from the start, it just hit me like a bolt of lightning, and I knew she felt the same way, it just took one of us building up the courage to tell the other I know that I'd never cheat on her, and I know that she'd never cheat on me, and yes, it's really good to have that trust... it took me a long time to regain it, having been cheated on in the past, but I do trust her that much, and I know she trusts me too We talk literally every day that we possibly can, usually for hours at a time, which is brilliant, because communication is the key to any relationship... the only thing we miss with each other is physical interaction, which we only get a few times a year when we meet up, but, for the right person it's worth the wait I'd say there are a lot of failed relationships that come about from long distance, but there are a few success stories too, it's all about your determination to succeed, and if you love someone, then it's easy to be determined The moral of the story though: you never know until you try... I always thought it would be futile to put yourself in a position where you're so far away from someone you love, which is why I've never gone in for online dating or anything like that, but if you really feel a connection with someone, and they feel it too... then things will go your way Hope you make the choice your heart wants!!laters
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You basically just described one of my experiences... Only I've known him for a year and a half... We dated online for a while, but ultimately broke up, we still talk and act like we're dating, but I don't expect him to stay single for me, and he has the same feelings. Hehehe, I'm going down to Mexico next year to see him, it will be winter time by then. Thanks everyone. :p
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yes they are.
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You know, I started reading this post, then I got distracted by that awesome fight scene.
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lol!!!!I know right? it's fun to watch. i get distracted easy. and i guess im not the only one its a much better picture than my face :P
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In my experience no they dont. Ive only had one and we met online and thats the way it stayed for several months, we never actually met. I dont even consider it dating but thats my only experience with it.I can say though if my current girlfriend where to move across the country or state or whatever i would find a way to make it work. It all depends on the relationship. I for one love my girlfriend very much and i would wait as long as i have to, to see her again.
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I agree that it depends on the relationship and a persons determination to make it work.
I'm currenty in a long distance relationship and I love the guy to bits a peices and would never change a thing about the way we met because then it might have turned out differnt to what it has.
In saying that, it is definatly not easy. I had times early on it the relationship when I found being so far away and not having the support of your partner in person really difficult to cope with and tryed to end the relationship to make it easyer on us both.
I'm gald we didn't split up because I'm pretty sure that when he gets his ass over to this side of the world for good it's going to be a very long term thing. We just really work well together.
It's hard being away from the person you love for 1/2 a year at a time. As much as we talk on the phone that can never be as good as being together in person.
So, they're not a waste of time always but if you're looking for an easy relationship it may not be the right choice.
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A long distance relationship just recently ended with me (see the long new topic that I created). It lasted 7 weeks before she came to visit me and at the end of the visit, broke it off with me. We had started to drift apart. And I guess for her it was out of sight, out of mind.
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In short, yes. They are a waste of time.
In long? Not if you're married or deeply, deeply committed. Deeply committed does not come in a month or two weeks or something.
This has something that has puzzled me for a while.
nevermind...I'll make a new thread.