Female Orgasms???? Trouble....

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Ok. I'v been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and were madly in love, but she just WILL NOT orgasm. Our sex life is amazing either way but as a guy I'd have some more satisfaction if she would orgasm! Shes never had one before and we usually start with alot of fourplay. There have been a couple times when depending on the position, I can feel a warm liquid being released and it kinda goes hand in hand with her body language...is this an orgasm? I'm just trying to figure out what this is all about? I'v done everything she could possibly want me to do or expect me to do but she still cant orgasm(I mean everything!). She says she reaches this line and it wont go past it, it still feels amazing, but she cant get past the line into the exploding part(orgasm)? Are some girls born with like, less nerves in their vagina or something? I can see that this is relativley common to happen to a few girls but why? Will she ever orgasm? I need some feedback? Anything would be greatly appreciated!

P.S My attempts include both external arousing and penetration, both to which she says feels amazing but once again, no explosive orgasm.

I don`t know if that is normal but it used to happen to me.
The warm liquid you feel could be it. How does she act when it happens.
Some girls can`t have explosive orgasms i guess,when i first started having sex it was the same situation and then when i got more comfortable with it,it happened for me.
So maybe you might not be doing something right,i don`t know(no offense to you ok).
Others might post and sound more professional than me.

Quote:Shes never had one before and we usually start with alot of fourplay. Can she get one from mastubation?  Quote:I can feel a warm liquid being released and it kinda goes hand in hand with her body language...is this an orgasm?Warm liquid? Can you describe that more? Like the smell and color.Some girls can "squirt" a clear liquid during an orgasm, but that doesn't happen with every orgasm.My first initial guess is...urine? Or is it just her secretions?  Quote:Are some girls born with like, less nerves in their vagina or something?No, every girl is capable of an orgasm but not all will experience one.  Quote:Will she ever orgasm? That's up to her really.I think the question really is...is she happy in bed? I mean, is this bothering you more than it does her?The only way she can get one, if she knows how her body clicks. If she can't, then you have a lesser chance.

It doesnt neccesarily bother me. Like everyone, it's nice to be able to make a person act and feel the way they do when they orgasm. Makes ya feel good. She loves what I do, and I can tell, i know it. "Our sex life is amazing" quote on quote to what she said and I agree. Our sex life has everything but her orgasming really...As far as the liquid being released, I really dont think it's urine because it feels thick. Urine is a thin liquid so if it were, I'd feel it going allover the place but it doesnt so i really dont think thats what it is.You'd think after 3 years something would give, but not at all. Were a serious couple and talk about everything, including this. It's not an issue in our relationship, it would just be a nice bonus to have her orgasm. If anything it makes us really look forward to when it does happen. I'm just trying to figure out whats going?

If it feels thick, then I'm guessing it's her natural lube.Well, I don't know what I can suggest. Unless she can give herself one, then I'm not sure how you can.If it's not an issue, then I wouldn't put so much pressure on it. If it happens, then great. If not, you're still happy.

If she can't orgasm by herself it's unlikely she will be able with you.

If it matters as much to her as it does to you then I suggest she have a go at it by herself when she has alot of time and no real time restrictions and do what ever feels good.

If she dosn't mind then I suggest you leave it. She's obviously fairly happy with your sex life so don't let it bother you. Don't take it so personally, relax and enjoy what you have now. It might just happen without you trying so hard.

its because both you guys are thinking about it too much!! just relax, tell yourself "shes not going to cum, but were both ok with that" ... it may let you guys relax enough to make it "Oh-ppear"

an amazing book for orgasm positions is " the cosmo karma-sutra" it can be found at spencer's gifts online. The main thing is to have a realistic expectation of your partner, your placing alot of pressure on her which can kill an amazing orgasm. The important thing is that you love eachother and she enjoys it. Just take time out to re-evaluate your expectations, if there based off of porn( which is all a lie and staged) then it will poisin (sp?) and disintagrate your relaationship and sex life. Sex is ment to bond two people, not be a cinematic event, so good luck and the media lies.

Very true!Welcome to A2A, Drummer!

Some antidepressants make it hard to climax. If your girlfriend is on an antidepressant, she could talk to her doctor about trying a new one to see if it makes a difference. Zoloft didn't work for me, but I didn't have any problems with Wellbutrin or Cymbalta. Everyone is different. Stopping an antidepressant suddenly can cause serious medical issues. If your girlfriend is having issues with her meds, stopping altogether is not a good idea. If you are students with limited funds, there are usually cheap or free campus clinics that will help. Even if you're not students, most doctors have samples, so trying a new medicine doesn't have to cost a fortune. It will take several weeks for the new medicine to take effect, so don't expect results overnight.If your girlfriend isn't on antidepressants, try stimulating different erogenous zones. Some women don't orgasm from just vaginal stimulation. A lot of women don't orgasm from sex alone. It is also true that a woman doesn't have to orgasm to find sex extremely pleasurable. An orgasm is just "icing" on the cake so to speak. Also, trying to orgasm with masturbation is a good idea. The easier you can orgasm on your own, the easier it is to orgasm as a couple.