My Step-Grandfather died this morning, though was not a shocker he had a severe stroke about a month ago and had been in a home ever since with feeding tubes and IV’s to keep him hydrated. My dilemma is the fact they are having services this Wednesday at 2pm and they live around 1-½ hours away. I was never close to my stepmother’s parents so if I even went it would just to support her. But even still there is just no way I can attend the services, so I feel like I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t. I know I will get slack from my stepmother is I am not there, yet I just cannot miss anymore work; like everyone else money is tight right now. Plus again I was never EVER close to my step-grandparents. Joe, Step-grandfather, was one of the biggest racists/bigots I ever met, loved to throw around the N word, Faggot, etc. He held women as though they were meant to serve and not speak. Just not sure I can go to a service that supposed to honor such an individual. I know I sound crude, and trust me I am battling with myself for feeling this way. I feel bad for his wife, Eileen (Step-grandmother), because I am not even sure if she understands 100% what’s going on; she has the first stages of dementia. Sadly the reason Joe was in such severe state is because Eileen let him lay in bed all day (he’s normally up at 6am) until around 4pm because she couldn’t remember how to call any emergency service. So yeah this is my dilemma and not sure what to do. Any help or suggestions?? I’m thinking about just sending flowers to the funeral home, but not sure if that’s really enough.Help??
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Step-Grandfather Dilemma
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let them know that you can't afford to skip work. Send soem flowers and write a card.
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Thanks guys I picked up a card last night and sending it out today. I still feel bad about not being there to support my stepmother but I did call her last night and talk to her for a bit and that seemed to help.
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I think that was the right thing to do. hugs