How Do You Deal With This Thought?

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What you do is stop feeling sorry for yourself, and stop worrying what others think of you.

Start doing something that makes you feel good. Hell, go to the local soup kitchen, and donate some time. Ironically, you would be surprised at the contact you can make in places like that. AND you would see that there are bigger worries in this world, and some of them you can do something about!

Almost anyone, with a flicker of drive, can make the contacts, and such to get a life.

Everyone here has offered up good advice on "dealing" with the jealousy issue. Get your act together and maybe someday she will have you back, or you will meet someone who is better for YOU...

My only wish right now would be for her to take me back after I get my life and priorities together, but I can't make her do things she doesn't want to do. I want her to wait for me but again I don't want to make her do things she doesn't want to do. I Don't want to spend this halloween alone. I have a feeling she'd rather spend it with her friends than with me but that's understandable. Even my brother doesn't want to do anything with me. So I'll be left at home alone. But Why? Why did this have to happen? Why can't everything be okay? Why did I have to wait? I feel like screaming in tears and in despair at her to take me back, begging her, pleading with her to please let me try again. If she were to take me back now, I know for a fact that the fear of having this feeling again would be enough for me to not screw up again. But it won't happen. I am so depressed. So, so depressed. And I will never forget her or how beautiful she is, how at the right time of day when the light hit her eye's how beautiful they looked. And Her smile, her soft caring voice. Her laughter was the best though, it always made me feel better when I was down and she would just smile and laugh, that would always cheer me up. But it's gone now. It's all gone. All that's left is a sad broken crying little boy. A small crying broken sad little boy longing to be held again and to be told that everything will be alright.

You understand that your ex girlfriend is a member here right?Reading things like this probably WONT bring her back to you. If i were to read things about my ex talking about wanting and trying to kill himself over me.. and all the things you have said just seem to have been taken so far.You've written so much but yet there is no change whatsoever. YOU are the only person who can change the way things are.. SHE isn't. YOU need to better yourself... Maybe instead of saying all the things you've said about her here... you should actually say to her in a private discussion because if my ex boyfriend came on here and talked like this I would definetly feel very embaressed and uncomfortable.

To be blunt, do you think posting about how depressing your life is without her is going to help? No it isn't because it just makes you realise things over and over again.And what you say isn't going to make her think "Oh, I've changed my mind, he misses me." She isn't there to take your hand, so you need to lead yourself forward instead of backwards.And for her sake, don't keep posting like this. It's hardly fair on her, not to mention you keep using "her", as if she's not here. Well she is, and probably reading. If I had an ex leaving messages like yours, I wouldn't know how to react or feel. It's simply unfair.So please, for yourself, if not anyone else, see the light. I've noticed your other posts and I realise you're feeling a bit better about things now, so please just keep going and someday, somewhere along your path, you'll find the person you're looking for. To both of you, I'm sorry things ended, but best of luck repairing

Yeah I've noticed it now, I hope you keep improving Jedi for your own sake, you need to stay healthy and get back on track.

Originally Posted By: StephieJ

Maybe instead of saying all the things you've said about her here... you should actually say to her in a private discussion because if my ex boyfriend came on here and talked like this I would definetly feel very embaressed and uncomfortable.

Originally Posted By: yoursmile

And for her sake, don't keep posting like this. It's hardly fair on her, not to mention you keep using "her", as if she's not here. Well she is, and probably reading. If I had an ex leaving messages like yours, I wouldn't know how to react or feel. It's simply unfair.
I appreciate the sentiment, but it's not necessary. Quite the countrary, I don't mind him coming on here and discussing this with everyone. I'm not embarassed. In fact, I'm the one who told him to do so. It's just one person alone (myself) isn't enough. I felt like he needed advice from other people.