Anyone out there for me??

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Hello everyone... it has been a few years since i last posted on this site... i am hoping someone can give me some insight as to what the heck is going wrong with me right now...in highschool i posted a lot here. i was battling my weight problem all through out high school and finally accomplished my goal in my first year of college. i am in my second year right now, i lost 50 lbs last year and am finally keeping it off.im going to get straight to the point here- all through high school growing up, i never had a close female companion- a girlfriend. i accepted this in high school though, because of my appearance and attitude. I thought that once i corrected my self image i would be magically cured, but i was dead wrong it seems.just as a side note about me- i am a very confident, intelligent person that can and does make everyone laugh around me and have a good time, not matter where or when. i am always fun to be around and people really do enjoy my company. i always think positively and don't think i look too bad at all. Which is why i am confused as to why females have -never- seemed to show -any- interest in me. There are lots of parties in college now, and i attend a lot of them. i always bring stuff and people always invite me back to their parties. i can converse with just about anyone (probably why i am going for a major in communications) and i love talking with people.it just seems that there is no one that is even remotely in the same boat as me, everyone seems to have found their magic and are having a blast, while i've been left in the dust for over 6 years now.I know that everyone will tell me that I am not missing out on much, and you might be right, however i am pretty much just fed up with just sitting back and watching boys and girls have a blast together.Also, this has nothing to do with me 'initiating' anything. I have no problem initiating anything in a conversation with a woman, infact i always make sure i do.Tons of girls around me are dating the biggest scum bags on this planet, why do such douchebags deserve such awesome women? Half of these jerks aren't even the asshole type, they are just losers who i would never hang out with.i'm seriously starting to lose faith with society in this day and age. I wait each semester to find new female friends, but they hardly come by, and go just as fast as they came.so... the question:are some people just destined to be alone forever?I hope not. I keep myself pretty entertained with work, the gym, and music. But such variables only keep me for so long. I need something new already.thoughts?

Welcome to A2A or better yet welcome back.

I know how you feel. I can honestly thought I would be alone the rest of my life, but I did find sowemone and we have been together for going on 18 years now..

If it wasn't for watching porn and jacking off, I would have lost my mind. I tried so hard to find someone. As I look back as it I was very aggressive and then when we would go on a date, I would smother them...

I found the person I wanted to spend the reat of my life with when I stopped trying to find someone.

I know it sounds easier than it is to do, but just party with your firends and just have as much fun in school as you possibly can without having the sex. then before you know it.. it just happens..

Good luck and stay focused. I'm sure there are many people at your school who are checking your new look out right now and they might be intimitated by that. just relax and let it happen on it's own

From what you say about yourself you seem like a nice guy that any girl would want. I have to say that I completely agree with Roc, just carry on with your life and then before you know it...Good luck, and let us know how you're getting on!

you guys aren't offering advice.just your pitty.

I don't believe people are destined to be alone forever. But neither do I believe people are destined to be together. Relationships require work.Eventually you'll come across the right person and you'll work hard at that relationship to keep it Just keep yourself out there, and you'll cross paths with somebody you like. It doesn't have to be "omg, i'll love you forever."

nicely put!

idk... just seems like every girl around here are so stupidly inlove with their ex's... so if they ever break up with their current b/f they just go right back for more.then all the single girls here just have stupid crushes on surfers and shit... i cant even stand to hang out with them anymore b/c that's all they talk about.seems that all the 'perfect' girls i've been searching for have already been found by unintelligent pricks who somehow manage to have a constant supply of girlfriends, even a few of my old friends who turned out to be major control freaks still hold on to their crappy relationships.i hate how everyone tells me 'just wait and let it come to you'... we'll ive grown up my entire life with the thought that if you want something done, then do it your damn self. but i think i'm too late... and being 19 is a shitty age to be in this rut. cant date younger because of age barriers, and girls 20-22 don't date 19 year olds. women prefer older men anyway... seems stupid but i can't really do anything right now but get older and wait this storm out.ok... back to playing tool on my guitar. /rant -off-

wow... um... first off, there's no such thing as the "perfect" girl. Just as there is no such thing as the perfect guy. Maybe you're not looking for the right kind of girl and you're being just as shallow as they are. Hopefully you don't act the same way as you do on here. I know it was a rant and everything but jeez...

i think you need to re-read what i wrote... you're wayyyy off.

I did read it over and I stand by what I said. Your attitude about it is all wrong in my opinion.

I don't understand why people feel the need to be in a relationship. 19 years old and you haven't even touched your prime. I find when I don't go "looking" for relationships, I get asked out alot. I still do but only because I'm not looking. I don't understand it. Maybe when people feel like you're not that kind of person who is concerned with relationships or being with someone there's more to you. At least that's what I've been told. I could wait till I'm 25 or so before I get "involved" with someone because there's so much more I want to do that being in a relationship would get in the way of. But if someone happened to come along that I believe what cause my life more drama then I'll take it. Like my bf, I don't know what attracted him to me because I was a man repellent. But he was "fascinated" with me and we had always been friends since elementary. Usually when people are out in the world looking for Mr or Mrs perfect he/she ends up being right there all along.

Originally Posted By: JapanFan14I did read it over and I stand by what I said. Your attitude about it is all wrong in my opinion.I don't understand why people feel the need to be in a relationship. 19 years old and you haven't even touched your prime. I find when I don't go "looking" for relationships, I get asked out alot. I still do but only because I'm not looking. I don't understand it. Maybe when people feel like you're not that kind of person who is concerned with relationships or being with someone there's more to you. At least that's what I've been told. I could wait till I'm 25 or so before I get "involved" with someone because there's so much more I want to do that being in a relationship would get in the way of. But if someone happened to come along that I believe what cause my life more drama then I'll take it. Like my bf, I don't know what attracted him to me because I was a man repellent. But he was "fascinated" with me and we had always been friends since elementary. Usually when people are out in the world looking for Mr or Mrs perfect he/she ends up being right there all along. of course you don't understand what i was really trying to say, dating is a completely different game for women. you don't have to do anything and you can still get asked out a lot. in a male dominant society, where males are the aggressors, i just honestly dont think you understand where i am coming from, because you are a younger female, and you already have had relationships.Granted, guys don't always end up asking the other person out, but for the majority that is how it has to play out, it's simply how all of us grew up thinking from our parents etc..as for whatever you were thinking about when i said "perfect girl" well you still don't see what i was trying to say if you still stand by your previous statement... read between the lines seriously. I already know there's no such thing as a 'perfect' girl, infact every girl i come across, or nearly every girl i have known throughout my life, make the dumbest mistakes in their lives especially with other men that the thought of a perfect girl in todays world is a complete far-cry.And even if a 'perfect' girl did exist, just because i want 'the perfect girl' makes me nowhere near as shallow as everyone else, it simply means my superego is doing its job.

I get what you mean when you say the perfect girl. There is no such thing as A PERFECT GIRL/GUY... BUT there is such thing as the perfect girl/guy for you.Just like the perfect guy for me would be different than most if not all my friends.

I'm agreeing with RocAs hard as it is and as fucking anoying it is when someone tell you this: It will happen when you stop thinking about it and stop looking so hard.I know how you feel and I felt like that for years and years but no one is ment to be alone.As soon as I stopped looking for a guy I found one. We're still going strong and have every intention of spending the rest of forever together.Try and enjoy your collage life, congrats on the weight loss and good luck in the future.