I just let her go.....

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With everything going on in my life i just let one of the most special people in my life go. She was the only person i could talk to, she was the only person who understood, and i love her more than anything.....and i just let her go.I broke up with my girlfriend due to her lying. She would lie about little things and big things and it got to the point where i didn't believe her anymore. Ive given her so many chances to tell the truth and every time i said "If you dont tell the truth im going to let you go" but every time she would lie and i would just forgive her.So yesterday i told her that again and i told her 'Don't lie, don't do this to us, we can still make everything work, dont make me leave you, don't let this go" and she promised she would not lie or let us get destroyed. So i ask her some questions and she lied right to my face (i didn't know at the time) and in the back of my mind i didn't believe her but she started crying and i had to take her home so i just let it go.So today i questioned her on it again and the truth (the real truth) finally came out. And i asked her why she lies to me and she says she doesn't have a reason she just does. So today i kept my promise and i let her go. I don't trust anything she says anymore and if she told me the truth i wouldn't believe it anyway.Right now i feel like i made the biggest mistake. It doesn't feel real and it doesn't feel like it happened, im only typing this to make sure it is true and im not dreaming. I love this women so much, with all of my heart and i would do anything for her, but i feel like i had to let her go. I don't want to lose her but i feel like it had to be done. Im so sad right now my heart is completely broken. She was my first love and i still care the world about her. Everything with us was perfect except for the lying, the relationship was perfect and i wont ever find anyone that connects with me this well, and i dont want to. I just want her. I feel like i made the biggest mistake of my life.

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I can't advise you - only you know enough to make the decision. I can say that in these situations whatever decision you make feels like the wrong one.

sometimes when u let somebody go it makes them want to change the things that went wrong in the relationship. i hope this will be the case for u. maybe she will realize that her lying was the problem and she will change that and will prove to u that she isn't going to do it anymore. i wish u the best of luck and keep positive.

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I can say that in these situations whatever decision you make feels like the wrong one.

very very true. Only time can heal this one.

I do have an update, just havent had time to post it sorry guys. We are starting to work things out and we are together still. After i broke up with her and took her she broke down. She pushed me up against my car and just hugged me and begged me not to leave her and i told her i had to.
So i ask her to please let me go and i got in my car and drove away and i looked in my mirror and she was just standing there balling and i felt horrible. So i got home and she called me and promised to really tell the truth this time FOR REAL. So i let her talk, i had nothing to lose, if she told me the truth we would get back together and if she didnt, well we were already broken up.
So we start talking and she told me the truth about everything, some answers werent happy ones and some were, some hurt some didnt, most were what i already assumed. Overall they were all happy though because it was finally the truth. She admitted she doesnt know how to talk very well because no one ever let her in her life, and she was afraid to tell me the truth because she thought i would get mad at her, because everyone always got mad at her when she talked.
I sympathized for her and took her back without even thinking about it. I never wanted to lose her i just needed to trust her and i had to break her heart (for half a day) to get it out of her, and in the end it all worked out.
She knows she can tell the truth now and no one is going to get mad at her, and i know she is telling the truth now. She has promised to never lie again because she doesn't ever want to lose me. We hung out today watched "I am Sam" and had a good day.
So yup thats the story. As previous people stated sometimes you have to take it to the extreme to make people realize they need to change, and this time it worked thank god. Thanks guys for the support and im so very happy to still have my beautiful girlfriend in my life.

no man, you made the right choice.
i know it hurts you too, but there are standards that you set for yourself that no girl can touch, and you should be proud of that.
most chumps would just go along with her lying.
you did not make a mistake.

i am so glad everything worked out for u, u did the right thing and u got u girl back in the end.:)take care.

oh wait..... u took her back?personally i wouldn't have.but just be on ur guard.girls are crazy sometimes...... or most of the time

just remember that it doesnt just take someone saying they will stop to actually stop. I really hope things work out for you... youre a good guy and deserve to be treated better.

I hope she doesnt start lieing to you again.. and if she does.. *just a little headsup* its much harder to get out of a relationship if u keep going back. If she ever does it again... say buh bye.

i agree with that one. in my opinion they have to prove that they have stopped lying. learned that the hard way and in the end for me they couldn't prove that they had changed so i had to let them go.