Fiance and I

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Well here is the story, I'll make it as short as I can.Before my fiance and I got engaged, we had sex about twice a week. We thought that twice a week was enough to make love and flourish our relationship without it spoiling and becoming just lust. And so it went on, and I thought twice a week was fine. Later down the road, I started going to church with her because I was the one that turned her life around and got her going back to church and on top of that, I was interested in her church because she is Mormon and I was brought up with no religion so I wanted to try to find it through her church.So once we got engaged, I started becoming more in tune with the church of LDS. And for those who don't know, most Mormons marry in their temples signifying eternal marriage. And to be married in the temple, you must be totally freed of all sins, be righteous, and hold priesthood. Obviously pre-marital sex is a sin, so it would be a moral problem if we continued to do what we did. We already tried to stop once before and we were only able to stop for 2 weeks and then we started back up again for a few weeks. Now I'm in college and I only get to see her on Fri-Sun, and so far it has been 3 weeks, but everytime we're together it gets harder and harder to control ourselves.We can't get married for at least a year from now because I'm still in the process of converting and getting baptized, and it takes 10 months to reach priesthood, plus it will take my fiance 12 months for repentence for the mistakes she had done in the past. And even after 12 months when we are able to finally be married in the temple, we still will be unable to marry each other finally until the summer of 2010 because I have college and there would be no breaks where I can properly marry her and go on a honeymoon. So I would have to keep this no-sex up for nearly 2 years. I believe in God and I do believe the words of the church, but it is so hard because I so badly do want to make love to her, especially at certain times. Any suggestions or opinions needed. Thanks

Welcome to A2A, Nicolay.That's a difficult thing to do, to stop once you've started. One possibility would be to only meet your fiancé in public places, or other places where you couldn't do it, but it's a considerable imposition.

Well, I kind of live with my fiance, so yeah.. I stay in my dorm from Monday-Thursday, but I live at her house which is an hour away, from Friday-Sunday. And we've already considered not seeing each other as an option, but neither of us want it to get to that point because that would be horrible and pointless to keep up for 2 years. Unrealistically, we both want each other so badly but we want to make work through this so we are definately at a mixed set of opinions.