My girlfriend and I recently broke up after going out for 17 months. The main reason was that due to my degree I had to move away (3hours)yet we saw each other when we could and spoke nearly every night on the phone. We both decided to split up yet, remained on good terms. We have met up once and we both said that we still had feelings for each other but she didn't want to go back out so soon after splitting up and that we needed some time apart which i agreed with. While we had our time apart i made out with 3 different girls. This was only kissing and didn't mean anything. But when I asked her if she has made out with anybody she said no, so in my great wisdom i decided to saw no also instead of telling her the truth (i know always tell the truth.)Since then she has made out with at least 3 people that i know of which i don't like yet i know there is nothing i can do.I was going to see her this weekend and tell her as i felt we were making progress as she was texting me and ringing me more than normal. But, she found out from somebody else before i had chance to tell her, now she is saying she never wants to see me again. I know she has a right to be angry and may be over reacting as she had been drinking a little.By the way i still love her and i think she still has a soft spot for me, but i need advice please
Welcome to A2A, clinster123.
If you break up, that means each of you is free to play the field. Neither of you can expect the other to be faithful to a relationship that you have terminated.
My impression is that neither of you are really prepared to let go. You need to decide between you if the relationship is on or off. If it's off, it's fully off.
Thank u i agree also that she still has feelings for me thats why she acted like she did. She is more upset that I didn't tell her about it than anything else, so I am hoping that after a few days she will calm down a bit.