What do you do..

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If you're sexually assaulted?

What happened, Abi?Many places have rape crisis centres or phone lines that would be a good place to start.

Well yes and no. A friend of mine had a birthday party today and some people got really drunk. Two of my guy friends were just really really... stupid. I don't know if what happened to me would be considered sexual assault. I mean I slapped him and kicked his manhood but I still feel very violated. My friend on the other hand refuses to tell me what happened but I know something did happen because her clothes were ripped and she was crying. I took her home but she refuses to say anything to me..

Is there anyone you think she might talk to?

Not that I know of. I highly doubt she'll tell her parents. And she has an older brother but I don't know if she'll tell him either. I'm talking to her on the phone now and she just keeps crying and cursing but she won't say what happened.

She might perhaps be prepared to tell someone anonymous on a rape crisis line.

Ok... she said she wasn't raped but that she willingly had sex. But that he wouldn't stop when she told him to and he got rough with her.

That counts as rape. She could bring charges if she wants to.How are you coping, Abi?

Yeah that's going to be extremely difficult.I'm a little upset, because I wasn't even doing anything. I was just trying to help him out. He was acting really stupid and I was making sure he didn't hurt himself and then he started saying things I really didn't want to know and really just... went out of control. I'm so upset.. and violated.

I don't think it was as serious as her situation. But when he fell off the table (don't ask) he got a bloody nose. So I took him to the bathroom and was trying to help him wash it off because it was getting all over his clothes. And then he pointed to the shower and was like "let's take a shower together". And I told him shuddup you're drunk. And then he was just blabbing away saying the most obscene things about me I've never heard in my entire life. It was like... audio porn. But then he kept touching and kissing me which I just kept pushing him off. But then he tried to take off my pants and that's when I slapped him. And when I tried to leave he blocked the door and that's when I kicked him and ran out the bathroom.

It sounds like you acted very properly, Abi. Alcohol was partly to blame, but that guy went far beyond what he should have done drunk or sober.

Report the incident to the police, a friend of mine went through the same thing u need to take those buggers out right away!

I thought so.. I just felt bad leaving him there but there was no way I was going back. I'm going to talk to him on the phone later on today to make sure he's alright and give him the lecture of a lifetime.

But as for my friend.. well.. I still don't know what to do about her. She seemed better today but she was very quiet. Should I tell for her or just stay out of her business?

Keep trying to get her to talk to someone, let her know that what happened was uncalled for. I wouldn't associate with those "friends" anymore. No one should be around a mean drunk.