Sex Question

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ok, so my girlfriend and i started having sex 2 weeks ago (used protection, and were both virgins) anyway, she stayed over at my apartment at school this last weekend, friday night everything went great ect. but both on saturday and sunday, i would be completely hard while she was performing oral sex, but quickly after she stopped i would end up going to something like half limp, everything still felt good like i was completely hard but obviously for actual sex, being half limp doesnt exactly work. long story short, after effort and my own personal frustration, everything worked out both times, but i was wondering if anyone has a clue as to what the problem was.at first i thought maybe alcohol sinc ei was drinking saturday, but when it happened again sunday that kinda ruled it out, so my guess was just that the tissue was having problems staying erect that much because of all of the time we spent just playing around and stuff. but any thought or suggestions would be helpfulsorry this was so long, and thanks

Welcome back, curiousguy13!If you were hard for a very long time, it can become increasingly difficult to stay hard, especially when you're tired; at least, that's what I've noticed.

there are all kinds of reasons that someone could loose erection including alcohol. What you have to realise is that if it happens once and you keep thinking about it, it will happen again. It's one of those nasty little tricks that nature plays on men.

I think a great thing about this site is that there are a LOT of people who come here who, like yourself, have vey little experience having sex or just started having sex. In my own experience (and I'm younger than you I'm sure, and I started having sex less than a year ago) is that boners can be unpredictable...both when they decide to get hard and when they decide to go a little soft. But I think you might be also having some "performance anxiety", and that only gets 20 times worse if the damn thing starts going soft at the wrong time. I really LOVE rubbing my penis when it's only half-hard all over my girlfriend's wet vagina area without actually putting it in! Try that! ...And if this happens again, don't get worrying about it not being totally stiff...just enjoy rubbing it and try to not even thing stuff like "I WANNA HAVE SEX BUT I CAN'T HAVE SEX BECAUSE OMG MY PENIS ISN'T FULLY HARD AND OMG HOW AM I GONNA PUT IT IN IF IT ISN'T HARD, BUT I WANNA HAVE SEX SO BAD AND OMG WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH ME!!!"Just enjoy pleasing her with your dick like this! (The darn thing is gonna like it so much that I bet he'll get a 100% stiffy in no time! Why?? because at that moment you don't even WANT IT to get fully stiff yet!)

Originally Posted By: unsupervised It's one of those nasty little tricks that nature plays on men. Yeah...Starting at about 13 it gets a mind of its own and does whatever it wants, whenever it wants! Remember all those spontaneous erections in school for no reason at all?? I swear God designed our penises to give us just as much embarrassment as they give us pleasure! (Sometimes I picture God looking down on me and, with a big grin on his face leaning over to one of his God-friends and saying, "Watch what I'm gonna do to Scott's dick!...."I think God just likes to have a little fun with us sometimes...Okay, here's a list of God's little practical jokes for men: - Erections for no reason at all- Going soft at the worst possible time- WET DREAMS- Pubic hair that itches!- That nice feeling when you get hit in the nuts!- Foreskins that are TOO TIGHT (See what I mean???)

At least we don't bleed once a month from a gash between our legs.

Yeah...that's right I guess.While God just did those annoying little pranks on us guys, some girl musta really pissed him off for him to decide to invent periods!

haha thats some funny stuffbut on topic, that really sucks and i hate it when that happens too. for me its just truely random. and what was said earlier about thinking about it...dont. becuase if you keep thinking about it, then it really will happen again! lol. what i usually do is if it starts comming down, its still hard enough to go in my gf so at that point i "try" to cum instead of holding it in, that way the urge of my wanting to climax comes back and so does my dick. that way once it comes up i go back to normal and wont cum. having her rub your dick really does the trick too!btw im deff. trying the whole rubbing your dick on her vagina. that sounds real nice =D