So i want to move out of my house. Im 18 and currently living with me mom. My mom has been seeing alot of her ex-husband (not my dad) lately and thats fine. But they have fallen back into their old drinking habits and its really making my life hell. My mom fights with me for no reasons, just an hour or so ago she burst into my room and kicked my girlfriend out and told me i was trying to "play her" or something. So im taking my girlfriend to the car and my mom follows us out yelling at us and then she tries to come up to the window to yell and i just pulled out of the driveway and left, with out saying anything.I have enough problems, i dont need her drunken village idiot act every night. Not to mention shes not in good health, and i dont want this to sound wrong but i cant stay here and watch her smoke herself to death and drink herself to death, then have her die and me be left with nothing. I need to get out before that god forbidden scenario takes flight.I live in Capitola CA. Right next to Santa Cruz CA, im willing to live in either city, and possibly Aptos CA if i have to. Rent is pretty high here, so thats a downer.I dont have a job but if i had a gameplan for moving out i would get one. Im going to college 4 days a week, and on monday i go in the afternoon and at night. If i were to look for a place it would have to be $600 or under. I dont think i could find a roommate at the moment, and i would live in a studio if i had to. I dont have a car but i could use public transportation or a bike if i have to. My problem is i dont know where to start. I need life experienced people that have gone through this to help me. How do i afford rent, utilities, food, clothes, college, etc at my age? How would i have enough time for both work and college? Is it possible, realistically? Could i still see my girlfriend, and maintain a relationship? I just really need advice.I want to get out by summer.
I want to move out (Need tips)
I don't think it's practical to support yourself and study full-time. To support yourself you'll need a full-time job - that is, 40 hours a week. College studies, if you take them seriously, should take about the same time in total, and that's too much. In my experience students who try to support themselves and also study full-time nearly always fail. If you're supporting yourself, you should study half-time - which of course will mean it will take twice as many years to get the degree.The cheapest way to live is usually a room in a shared house. However, it's a gamble because you have to get on with your housemates and be able to split the bills and the chores without acrimony. In any case you should get the job first before looking for somewhere, so you know what you can afford. Rental agents will not rent to someone who does not have a clearly adequate source of income to pay the rent - from their point of view, evicting someone who hasn't paid is a long and costly process, and they want to be quite sure they won't have to do it. Expect to have to pay a month's rent in advance, plus a month's rent as bond, so you should have two month's rent in hand.Who is paying for college at the moment? If your mother is, perhaps she would continue to do so if you lived elsewhere (otherwise it would be even more difficult).Have you considered buying a second-hand trailer and parking it on your mother's property and living in that? Sometimes that can give enough separation at an affordable price.
First, if you're going to school you should try living on campus. Dorms may be cheaper and will be covered my financial aid (if you get any). Do you have any family you could move in with as an alternative? Try looking for jobs on campus, they may be more flexible schedule-wise than other jobs. Save as much as you can before you decide to move. Try doing something on the side, if you have a talent or a hobby capitilize on it to make some extra cash.
I've come this far, I ain't turning back.