So I've been getting told by people that "I'm too serious". They say i walk around the halls in school with a face that looks like i want to kill someone, that i don't smile, and that i look "mad depressed". I've already been told this by like 3 different people. I mean i don't feel/notice that I'm like that. People have always told me that I'm serious, in a mature way though. But never thought it would be that bad that people talk to me about it. I guess i have been a little down lately with myself, but i never thought it would show and people would notice. I know I've changed, i sort of made myself change over the past year. I always felt that i was a little too immature and too nice and i sort of forced myself to change. But i just noticed it's not really a change for the better. I feel like I've been alienating a lot of people i used to talk to. I really don't know what to do, I've been so unhappy with myself and stressed and this just makes it worse..
I'm too serious?
I've got a friend like you, who fits the description you've given. I've accepted that it's just his nature. I'd suggest you just try to let loose and have some fun every once in a while. You don't have to be serious all the time, there's a time for being serious, and times for goofing off and just having a good time. You just need to figure out how to do the latter. Loosen up, have a good time!
I don't know whether it helps, but I think often the problem is worrying too much. If you try to let things be as they will, and don't worry about how you appear to other people, you'll be happier and more confident.
I have this problem too. Apparently I have a "sad face" so I always look depressed, even when I'm not. It's a real pain sometimes because people look at me and keep asking if something is wrong, when in reality everything could be amazingly right! I generally tend to find I depress people around me.
Unfortunately I don't have much I can suggest apart from looking at yourself in the mirror and trying to find a comfortable "happy face" that you can try and get into a habit of sticking to!
You may not be used to it at the moment, but in the hallways, if you see someone you know, or used to know (like those people you said you migh have alienated a little) smile! It doesn't have to be a let-me-show-you-all-my-teeth overenthusiastic grin, a simple little smile will suffice. There's nothing at all immature about that. However, if you don't have a smile, I would be more than happy to give you one of mine!
You said you tried to change yourself, you felt you were too immature and nice. Remember how you used to be back then and try to bring some of the elements about yourself, that you felt comfortable with, back.
Good luck and turn that frown upside down!
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Thing is, i don't really notice i'm being serious. Like in the hallways, i felt that i had a happy face on and i would smile when people said hi to me. Until people started telling me that i always have an angry face.
Originally Posted By: IneligibleI don't know whether it helps, but I think often the problem is worrying too much. If you try to let things be as they will, and don't worry about how you appear to other people, you'll be happier and more confident.
I admit it, i do worry too much about what people think of me. It's hard not to do that though. Like in school if I'm not feeling good about myself, i tend to shy away. I won't be so talkative, or perky and i don't put myself out there.
It's not just about myself that i worry too much. Lately I've been so worried for my future, i care a lot more about school and how i do, and everything. I feel that if i just relax a little and not worry so much that i'm going to mess up and mess up my future.
Not worrying doesn't have to mean that you let things slide. You can push yourself to do what should be done without being over-anxious about the result.
I've gotten that alot from people and i take it as a good thing. You just tell them that you're deep thinking and then they'll think you're mature which is a good thing IMO.