Just when you thought....

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Just when you thought the world was a little better place people have to go and prove you wrong.Note, all the info I've gotten is third hand through mom.A cousin of mine got beaten to death last week sometime, apparently for being gay. He's extended family so I didn't really know him. He was 48. Someone broke into his house and beat him so severally, at first glance, the police thought someone had put a shotgun to the back of his head and blew his face off. He wasn't into any drug seen or anything remotely like that... according to his friends and family. He had a nice house and nothing was stolen or known to be missing. Apparently the only room to be upset was the living room where he was killed.According to folks the local police are investigating it as a rather simple home invasion. The feds are investigating it as a hate crime. As far as I know there are no leads other than some foot prints and the media has not reported on it at all other to post his funeral notice.I've heard many times around these parts, "there's nothing worse than a fag prairie-nigger." Many rednecks around here believe that and when having drank themselves enough guts, are ready to act on it.

Omg, that is terrible. So sorry for your family Scotty. I hope they catch those assholes!

Omg Scotty.. thats just horrid!! I hope they catch the bastards! How horrible to kill someone over something so small and silly as sexuality...

ARGH!! THIS MAKES ME FURIOUS!I hope they find these idiots who did this to your cousin. Im so so so sorry for your loss. No one deserves to be treated so horribly.. NO ONE!!

That's appalling, scary, and makes me very angry. I'm so sorry, Scotty.

i don't have high hopes for the world. i knwo its crap....well the people. the bad out number the good i believe.i held back with saying this i dk why... well i do but it don't matter cuz i knwo i shouldn;t let what i think some one will think effect what i might would like to say. anyway- i know most of you remeber me freakign out cuz of a phone call. i didn;t say much bout it. i talked to inliguble some but just some... honistly i think alot of times people hate me or scared of me or somthign cuz of all my shit problums so i ....well. . there is alot of shit going on..well was going on. that i didn;t knwo about. My brother;s ex friend was who calle dme sexual harrasing me. He was doign it to me to piss off my brother so he;d do somthign stupid. well i changed my number and that ended that. then i found out that Ryan cought his ex friend fuckign a passed out girl at one of their parties. i'm goign to call my bro's ex friend dumbass..Dumbass found out my brother was going to tell on him in court he started bugging me to get to him. Then when i ...........and it;s all my foult. dumbass and two of his butthole friends jummped C(i'll call him C) C's my brother;s good friend that is gay. Butthole told everyone...even people C didn;t want to know. (he;s still seritive about it) and he was in bed for a days. C told me when me and shannon whent to see him to tell ryan not to do somthing dumb...and to not fall for dumbasses games. and ry has gotten pissed off. him and dad were fighting alot . ry would say he;s going to go to someone;s party to kick dumbass's ass and then dad would jump on him and not let him leave. they;d fight. ryan moved out....... it;s all my foult. life sucks....people are fuckers...... death would be much easer.

Dumbass sounds a bit like someone in my wife's family - only thinking of himself and not caring about how much he damaged other people to get what he wanted. He died friendless.

I just gotta say, I for one don't hate you and you sure as hell don't scare me. As far as that goes I think your one of the few individuals who has some perspective on the preciousness and fragility of the all to fleeting mirth of life. One thing I've noticed about you CR, in our all to limited correspondence, is that when things are good you really appreciate it. I don't think most people do. Most people let the good times in life pass without notice, without appreciation, without truly delving into them. I think there's a lot to be said for simply taking note and appreciating the good we do get to experience. To me it's kinda like that line form The Color Purple, "I think God gets pissed off if you walk by the color purple in field and don't notice it." To me you seem like someone who notices it and relishes it and lives to see it again. In it's own miserable, seemingly depressing way, that's kind of gift. Maybe it's just the sad irony of life that only through suffering and trial that we began to appreciate the calm, the comfort and the euphoria of peace.The thing about dumbasses is this, I've found in life that as you get older your encounters with them lessen. It's just a function of age. Don't get me wrong, you still have to work with them, may be related to a few of them, but it's a different kind of dumbass (more like just stupid assholes that you wonder how they ever got where they are or how they got the promotion, or how they ever got to be the JV football coach.). The bad dumbasses that are present in adolescence and young adulthood tend to drift in different directions than you or I would. People like that we have nothing to do with and we're focused on our lives and loves and we're by and large no fun for people like them. The ones they're going to be fucking around with are the other assholes at the bar, the women stupid enough to hook-up with 'em, and the other assholes that hang around 'em.Now, none of that's to say you won't have the occasional run in wish a bad dumbass but the older you get the less frequent it is, or so it seems to me. Most of the real bad dumbasses I used to hate have either wound up in jail or had to, had to, finally grow up, less they find themselves wasteoids living from couch to couch going from person to person till they wear out their welcome everywhere cause nobody wants to deal with the drama they bring. And like ineligible said, those that don't grow up, they die friendless, more often than not in some kind of stooper, reminiscing about the halcyon days of their misspent youth. And that's all they have, those few meteoric days when youth smiled on them and they could shit on everybody around them.It's temporary, concentrate on your life and the life you want to build with Shannon. In a few years you'll suddenly realize that those kind of people aren't really apart of your life in anyway anymore, unless you invite them in and your to sharp to do that.

Man, you say good stuff. I needed to hear a lot of that.Caleb - I'm not gonna waste a lot of time repeating a bunch of stuff that Scotty just said so well. But I want you to know and to understand that this stuff isn't your fault. I suspect that it might be second nature for you by now to take responsibility for stuff that isn't your fault. But whatever decisions Ryan makes is his own stuff, not yours. You got pulled into a situation, by no fault of your own. You made decisions in that situation that, as far as I can tell, were incredibly mature. You're the one guy who can't be blamed. So let your brother deal with his own stuff. It's on him. Beyond all that...read Scotty's words again. There's good stuff in that post.

this makes me so sad..& now im angry!!sighim sorry