NO SYMPATHY FOR TEEN MOTHERS

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not everyone gets drunk and is horny when they have sex.. i was FULLY Sober.. and really honestly not horny.. i felt nothing but love for my boyfriend..

But do you think it is fair to take the babys life because irresponsibilty?

Having kids is hard no matter how old you are, pinkranger. You need to find yourself some new friends if all they do is have sex,get pregnant and get abortions. I won't support a teen mother who has not learned from her situation and is still out in the streets having unprotected sex. Will not! And I DEFINITELY will not support a girl who gets an abortion because the baby will "inconvinience" her life and they are afraid of what people may think of them. I respect girls who take care of their responsibilities and doesn't whine and mope that she's too young to have kids. Once again, children are gifts. They all deserve a chance to live. There are so many people out there who cant have kids. Let's not be selfish. Think about the children.

But teenagers are but children themselves.. I have NEVER had unprotected Sex and i do not ever plan on having unprotected sex.. and yes i was in a terrible situation where the condom broke but i got the morning after pill and everything was taken care of.. but how would a child feel knowing that they were born because of a mistake.. that they really were an inconvinience in their parents life... you also have to look at in the situation of how the child is going to feel.. Let me give u an example. A Teenager gets pregnant.. shes still in highschool.. she chooses to have the child but then realizes she cant handle the responsibilities of raising a child... and starts messing around trying to be a teenager and the child gets hurt in the situation.. It doesnt help the child in any of thisI believe that a child should grow up being loved.. having two parents who love them.. or even just one parent and they grow up in a loving family.. Not all teenagers can give thatImagine yourself in the situation.. imagine yourself in your teens and you get pregnant.. or if your a guy and you get your girlfriend pregnant.. you have everything run through your mind.. the pros and cons.. i know when this happened to me there were more reasons NOT to go through with it then to go through with it.. i WAS thinking of the child.. and i knew that i wouldnt want my child to have a bad upbringing.. so if something were to happen.. i knew which choice i was going to have to make

Well i mean it's true. You are saying that you can ruin a babys life if you punish the mother, but if you don't, they will never learn. You could have a teenage mother that doesn't care about her baby, or just slightly cares. If you use that "don't punish the mother, because the baby might be affected" rule, she won't learn, and she'll go have sex again, get pregnant again and either abort the baby or just have it and leave it there. But if you do punish the mother, not only will she learn, but she will start taking responsibility to the selfish act she consisted in. Also, this teen mother thing might just start to slow down now that some people get punished for getting pregnant, then others see what future might lay ahead of them if they aren't careful and don't do the right thing. Also, the father will learn and should get punished as well because she didn't do it all by herself. They should get punished, or else others will get pregnant and this will all go unnooticed!

I want you all to understand that I didn't wake up one day and decided that I hate teen mothers. Shavar,you said I shouldn't judge until I walked in thier shoes. Teen sex and teen pregnancy has affected my life immensely, (even if it was indirectly). In a previous post, I stated those things about my sister (albeit harsh). My sister was one of those kids who needed to be center of attention and she was until I was born. She thought that my parents didnt love her, so she sought "it" somewhere else. I remember when she was 13 and I was 5, guys would come by and I thought that was all pretty innocent (in my 5-yar old mind). But I found out recently that she was having sex with them. My mom had asked her if she was having sex and my sis said no. At 14, she did become pregnant and she choose to get an abortion. If I was old enough to understand, I would've been mad. My dad blamed my mom and they almost got a divorce because of my sis. NOTE: (my sis and I dont have the same dad, so she would broken up MY parents). You would think after the horrible experience before,she would wise up, but no. She continued to whore around again and got pregnant a year later. So what do you think this is doing to my parents? Yes I have hatred. I'll admit. Becuase of my sis's actions, I could've lost my family. She has caused so much pain and turmoil in their lives, I'm surprised we made it through. This was a big family secret to me ( I fuond out 2 years ago). I feel this way for a reason. Seeing what harm this caused, I refused to have sex until I was 18 and graduated from high school. My 'rents don't need any more hurt. My parents need a child to be proud of.

i just got tired of reading all this so if this has nothing to do with anything or been covered already nevermind it. my mom WAS (or is but since is was way in her past it's was.ok nevermind) she had my oldist sibling and she was just out of high school. does she regreat it noooooooooo was it hard for her YESSSSSSSSS ( or so i am told) my mom didn't mean to get prgnant ( i guess lol) but she did. Ryan has never met his father (sire)lol trew in some breeding words there lol...... his dad is my dad. ok i have no idia how i whent from one subjest to the dad thing but owell. i'm tired and i aint fixing it. and i probly don't make a lick of since either but oh well let the bridge fall.

but not every story is the same as your sisters.. I wasnt whoring around.. im NOT whoring around.. most girls arent.. i was using a condom.. and it broke the first time we chose to have sex.. There are different situations

Alright, I've been reading a lot of your different opinions. I have to agree mainly with Sillygirl84 or whatever her name is, no disrespect by the way, but I've got a friend who had gotten pregnant at age 18, not unreasonable because she was and is an "adult" however, two years later, she is barely getting by in life, she's jobless, her baby's dad isn't around and now she's struggling, but guess what, she had another one, so two babies, two fathers, both deadbeats. She's goin on welfare, her second baby's father is barely around and when he is around they fight all the time, so even with the help she is receiving through governmental aide programs like WICK and welfare, how is having a broken home, no money, no car, barely scrapping by, NOT a "fucked up" life for her children? But hey, she's even thinking about having another child, number three, SHE HASN'T LEARNED so I am all for the no pamper theory and punish them. You touch a hot stove you get burned...all there is to it, but these people always seem to have fucking oven mits on. THEY CAN NOT LEARN. And to you ladies and gents who say "the condom broke," DO YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO HAVE HAD A CONDOM BREAK? HAVE YOU NOT HEARD OF IT HAPPENING BEFORE? So I believe you were playing russian roulette. You gambled, and lost, and now are blessed with a child. I'm sure you are taking care of your business. HOWEVER when I hear of a 15 year old complaining she's pregnant and the condom broke, for shame, shouldn't have been having sex, WE HEAR IT EVERY DAY, THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP...pick one, and live by it.

Very good point, your irresponcibility is your responcibility!

how is it being irresponsible when you are being responsible enough to not have sex without a condom.. how is it irresponsible that the condom broke.. unless you broke that thing on purpose i see nothing wrong there

you will most likely not like what i have to say in response, but IMO i believe it was irresponsible to assume that the condom is 100% safe, they're success rate is only 70% i think, but if you were really really really trying not to do something, for example get pregnant, would you rely on only 70%?

your full of crap i mean i fell pregent at 15 i'm now 17 and have two great little girls i don't wish i never had them they are my life and i still finished high school all the way to yr 12 and went out with my friends and now i have a full time job even though i had no one and i mean no one there to help me when i had them i did it all on my own and i'm getting married in 5 months. so what if you dont' have sympathy for teen mothers you dont' need to tell everyone about it we dont' care!!!!!!!!!!!!

i read it was 95%

I have sympathy for teen mothers who are having a hard time. I guess I have this thing about trying to save people all the time and I wonder if it's something that's healthy or unhealthy.Anyway, I have learned to accept people the way they are and, if possible, steer them toward a direction in making themselves a better person. I've had friends who had abortions and kids when they were really young yet it doesn't make me love them less.People make bad decisions sometimes and it doesn't help to hold a grudge or think less of them. If you think you can help someone in making better decisions then do it. Negative judgement will only fuel negativity elsewhere.

hmm interesting, i think condoms is like 70 and birth control is 95 and the little things they implant are about 99. but still not 100.

what kind of job do u have? and are u goin to college?

i have it written down somewhere ... let me find it...

condom - 86-95% effective
female condom- 79%
Birth control- 95%
morning after pill- 75%
diaphram- 80%
Douching- not reliable

haha well combine condoms and birth control & you have well over 100%