Hey guys, I haven't made a real post on here in a while, things have been...mediocere at best. I just feel like...like nothing is...nothing is the way I want it to be. I've got a job, but its been crappy lately, people are assholes, manager is a jerk, the only bright thing about my work, hell my life, is this girl named Jenn. She's amazing, a short little blond, she's kind, and funny and she makes me feel...I dunno, like I can breath after being under water for months. She broke up with her boyfriend a few days ago, sho obviously she's devistated, me being the guy I am, no matter what I feel for her, her feelings are first, so I am trying to be there for her, help her through it. We've hung out together a few times, she calls them 'dates' but I dunno if she means that seriously, doubt it cause she was with her bf at the time. They were the most amazing times I've had in so long, maybe even my life, all we did was watch movies and go to our resturant for dinner. I guess what I'm trying to say is, am I just fooling myself that she might actually like me? She is really flirty by nature, and she says we're friends, says I'm a really good friend. Is it possible that if I'm there for her enough...maybe...or am I just being stupid and is this gonna be another dead end in my life. I know you guy's will probly say 'theres lots of fish in the sea' but Jenn...I don't know how to say it any better than 'she's not a fish'. Any words of wisdom, possitive or negative, would be much apreciated, cause I just can't do this anymore, I can't find all the answers myself.
I need advice or something...
Shes not going to be feeling happier/better anytime soon. A breakup is pretty traumatic for a girl. I would just stick around as a friend for now and try not to think of her in a romantic way.. it could possibly ruin your friendship if you try something too soon.Wait until she is over him and then try asking her to hang out a little more often. Something out of the norm.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
Yeah, that was pretty much my train of thought as well. sigh why is life so complicated? with all that crap, my dad called me a short while ago and told me that my grandma's cancer is advancing...these are dark days in Lukeville indeed.
It sounds like you two have a wonderful friendship, and in my opinion you need to keep ti that way....for now. She just had a break up and most likely wont be over it for awhile. Give her her time and continue to be a good friend like you have been, and once the storm passes see what happens. Its possible it could very well go somewhere, but right now i wouldnt imagine she is thinking about another relationship.
If i just had a breakup (especially from a long term relationship) i would need atleast a few months break, but everyone is different. You sound like a good guy and a good friend and im sure she appreciates you for what you are and if you continue to be this person for her maybe she will eventually think of you in a romantic way.
IMO the best relationships start as friendships. but if it does not work out try not to be too bummed about it, because i was once in your EXACT same situation no joke and it never worked out, and do you know what? I found a better fish. If it does not go anywhere romantically atleast you will still have a great friend.
Thanks for the advice, yeah, everything you guys are saying is what I've been thinking, but it never hurts to have someone tell you, ya know? I'm hanging out with her on thursday, gonna be fuuun! woo!