I've been in a steady relationship for almost 2 years, but just recently i was asked by a female friend to be her partner for dancing in our schools talent show. background info, im a sophomore, ive been with my girl since the end of 8th grade, and ive known my dance partner since the 7th grade, always on just a friend level. Now that we're dancing though, im starting to feel something weird between us. I wouldn't describe it as "sexual" feelings, but moreso as romantic feelings, at least, thats what i feel towards her, but i think she feels the same. Now ive been dancing for probably 9 years, mainly breakdancing, but also basic hip hop, and up until now, it was always just dancing. Im just wondering if anyone has any insight as to why i may feel like this?
Issue with my dance partner?
It could be a million different things; my best guess though would be that its because you are young and you are realizing there are more fish in the sea than your current girlfriend. Dancing can be arousing and maybe you have some interest in your dancing partner.I am in no way shape or form suggesting breaking up with your current girlfriend, nor am i suggesting you go for your dance partner. I am just telling you what it sounds like to me.At the same time it could be nothing. Ive been with my girlfriend for over a year and i am a bit older than you (I am a freshman in College) and i sometimes have those "weird" feelings about other girls. Women i talk to in class, or on campus, i sometimes get a feeling similar to what you are describing, maybe i myself am realizing "hey there are more women out there than this one', but then i remember "I caught the biggest and the best damn fish in the whole ocean, and i would be absolutely stupid to throw it back in the sea".I just think its normal to notice others of the opposite sex, whether you are in a relationship or not. It does not mean you need to or want to act on it, it just happens and it cant be helped. There will always be other people out there and there will always be someone else that you have a connection with, hundreds, thousands, maybe millions, now whether you decide to try someone new and see where it goes, that is your personal choice.Good luck to you xj2252bx i wouldnt think too much about it, its most likely just a normal part of being a human being.
What kind of dancing are you guys doing? Yes, yes, I know you said you do 'mainly breakdancing, but also basic hip hop', but is this what you are dancing with her? What I think is that it's natural, as long as you don't act on it. I mean, you're within such close proximity to her, you're touching her, you're, persumably, holding her so, sure, it's understandable you feel an attraction. The dancing you said you did, seem more like solitary types, so the change of doing something you love with somone else might rub off on your feelings for that someone too. But you say you have a girlfriend, two years is a long time so what you guys have seems pretty worthwhile. I know I can't talk, but try to forget about your feelings for her, you have someone wonderful, and it's not worth messing up, is it?
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like sunshine said, certain types of dances can stir up emotions. Trust me... I know.
If these "emotions" started happening when you guys became dance partners then it's probably nothing serious and you should dust it off your shoulders. Don't let that get in the way of you and your girl.
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I have to agree with sunshine_baby. Dancing is a very physical form of expression whether you think about it as expression or not. Especially in our society where we are very isolated and don't come into physical contact with other people very often. Also its very easy to confuse the lines of a deep strong friendship and romance. Especially when you're probably spending more and more time with her for rehearsals and the performance. See what happens after the talent show and if any of those feelings still linger. But I wouldn't make any rash decisions on the fly.
Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love.
Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey