I don't know whats going on in girls heads, I've never really had a relationship so thats new grounds for me. I've had a crush on a coworker for a long time but she was always in a relationship. Well, she kept telling me they broke up and then a few days later or so they'd be back together. This made me feel like shit because I felt like she was toying with me. Eventually she started playing games trying to figure out how I felt about her by claiming she had a crush on someone from high school (no relation) and how she still has some feelings for her boyfriend, but she also has feelings for this other dude. Well, I may be bad at picking up on signs but I could totally tell she was talking about me (even if I was only half certain) so I just offered advice until she finally came out and asked me if I liked anyone and I told her straight up. Just to be a butt, I was like "so who was that other guy you were talking about?" just to joke around. This was all through texts. Well, she said they finally broke up for good and we eventually made a date to go to the movies. I didn't make any moves on her because honestly I'm confused as to how she feels about me now. I kept telling her it was a date so if she still accepted she must still like me. We ended the "date" with basically a hand shake and I was texting her telling her she actually made me nervous and she kept asking me why I was nervous.. well? I like you and I want you to like me? Now we have been hanging out at work like usual, but it still feels like the same between us as if she hasn't gained any more interest in me. I'm not really sure how to proceed, but at the end of the movie she said we'd go again some time which could just mean as friends.. I guess I'm going to ask her to go see some movie she has been talking about in a few days and based on that I'll know if making a move on her is the right thing. the end goal isn't to get in her pants, just some smoochies and possibly an idea of weather or not she actually wants to have something with me.I don't know what question I'm asking here. I guess how do I know if the chick digs me or not?
I feel like I'm being played?
Don't play the fuckin' game... short answer.Don't let shit slip back into the comfortable friend thing either. Ask her to go out on another date and this time kiss her at the end of it. If she rejects you, you've got your answer and can be unfettered in moving on.For myself directness was always best. The worst that can happen is you get rejected. On the upside if you do get rejected you aren't wasting your time on something that isn't going to go anywhere.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
See, this is the answer I was looking for. It is short simple and there is technically no margin for error. Thanks man.