No kidding, I really am...
Let me tell you about me first... I am...
34 years old
about 230 lbs.
Now, my problem...... Please be kind in your responses because all this is TRUE and I am already massively depressed about this and other things too, so...
I am a real 34 year old virgin who has never even been out on a date. I have never kissed a girl. By the way, I am totally 100% for sure heterosexual (straight, sooooooo like the ladies).
I don't know where I went wrong but somewhere along the way, I have lived a pathetic existence without companionship.
Don't even get me started on how horny I am and how I would love to be with a girl.
I have never kissed. I have never dated. I never went to prom. I have never been intimate with a girl and even if I had the opportunity, I doubt i'd know what to do...
My only outlet has been internet/traditional porn and masturbation... that's it.
What the hell do I do??? HELP ME PLEASE, ANYONE...
I have a sister and a mother and a stepfather, all of whom I dearly love, but they have their own natural lives and somehow, I never took care of MY PERSONAL LOVE LIFE which now has left me lacking one and I am filled with despair because I am soooooooooo late to the game, that I don't even know where to begin...
pretty much it........ pathetic, isn't it.
but, unfortunately ALL true! not one word of B.S. in this whole story!
any ideas? i'm not some freak with six arms or a hump on his back. if you saw me on the street, you wouldn't think me any different than any other 20-30 something guy....
but i am so ?????? i don't even know?
again, please be kind and try not to pity me too much.
never got any in Arizona
HELP !!! I AM REALLY A 34 YEAR OLD AMERICAN VIRGIN
No kidding, I really am...
Go out, find a nice lady friend. Don't be afraid to take risks. Ask women out, see what happens from there. You'll get that first kiss in no time, and eventually I'm sure you'll be in a healthy relationship =)
Have you tried dating websites??
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
I'm 34 as well and have some perspective on how hard it can be to meet people once you get into your thirties. Put the virginity thing out your head for now and concentrate on what things you can change in your life to put you in a position to meet new people. Remember, it's obvious that what you've been doing isn't working for you so your gonna have to try some new things.
Find things to do that put you in a position to meet a diverse group of people. Take classes, join a gym, get involved with organizations and so on. Once your out their meeting new people it's time to put it on the line and start asking them out. The sex will come in do course.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
I really am not "focusing" on the 'no sex yet' thing as the primary thing, but as has been pointed out, what i am doing (just living amongst the other 3 billion on this planet) is not working... i really wouldn't know even where to begin because i have pretty much been blending in and doing all the "normal" things except that i don't or haven't taken the initiative to "go after" someone and really this is one of my flaws in other ways too. i kind of let things happen to me rather than make things happen.
i fear that i will continue to feel what i feel and believe me, other than finite bad things like losing a loved one, etc, there is no greater emptiness than being lonely and not having someone to love (romantically speaking)...
family or not even friends can take the place and fill that hole in one's sole, one's heart that comes from being alone.
there is nobody to go home to, nobody to share your day with, nobody to say "i love you" to, nobody to look at across the table or across the pillows... it's terrible.
i don't know?
My advice would be get involved, get out there. Evening classes and the gym are great places, also work is good too though it can make things a tad awkward.
However you seem like a really nice guy, maybe try going down the bar with some mates or co-workers and get chatting to women. Maybe an idea could be devoting some of the time you use looking at porn to checking out websites advising you on how to get womens numbers and ask them out (not saying porns bad ;). One thing i will say is when you do start dating, dont jump into saying you love them too quick and don't rush anything, let it happen naturally and enjoy the present don't worry about the future or fret about the past.
Tony the tiger goes Rawrrr...