Ok, well ive been with my girl for coming up on four years now, weve been fooling around for half of that, and well to be honest the sex has kinda sucked, but i havnt really cared cus i love her no matter what, but like all guys i would rather have better sex. well the other day i was hanging out with her and one of her best friends from when she was like 8, and overheard something that lead me to think there may be a history of sexual problems between her and her brother. specifically oral sex. i didnt think much of it at the time but after a while it started to make since that if something had happened when she was young involving oral sex, that might lead to why she refusives to be involved with oral sex with me. I know this is all going off of hear-say, but i really dont know how to approach this one. i mean i dont want to confront her on it, but i dont know how to get her over it if it is true that something happened. any help would be awesome!
Childhood problems, dislikes sex.
If that is the reason, she won't get over it easily. You certainly shouldn't confront her on it, and I'm not sure whether you can mention it at all. It may be that the best you can do is try to make it as easy as possible for her to bring it up when she feels ready to.