Sorry this might be a bit long but I broke it up into paragraphs so it's easier to read.Not too long ago, I had made a post about a guy I had met through my friend's high school ex-boyfriend...but that didn't really go anywhere and I got over it and moved on.On the same night, I also met this other guy...now he seemed genuinely interested in only me.In fact, when my friend jokingly tried to get his number he was like, no I'm giving it to only your friend (I.E. me) but he told me he wasn't sure if my friend was being serious or not, but he was serious in not giving her his number, lol. I really wasn't going to call at first because I thought he would be just another jerk that I didn't want to deal with...but I said fuck it and gave him a chance anyway...I mean, what else have I got to lose?It was great. Before today, I was glad I gave him a chance. We hung out another time and he even stayed the night the second night we hung out. I want to take it slow with him and we didn't even do anything the first night but made out then went to bed. This weekend, I got a hold of him again to see if he wanted to hang out on Friday...He told me he had to go out of town that night for a military thing and said I should call him on Saturday or he would call me when he got back. And I suggested I will call him on Saturday.Ok, so THEN it's Saturday and I was gonna wait a while until I called him, but he texted me first saying he got home...asking if I still wanted to hang out that the roads were bad 'n stuff...because of the snow. Understandable.Instead of hanging out we just stayed on the phone with each other for a while, almost two hours! because of the weather and decided to make plans again for today.We had planned for a late lunch around this time 3 or 4 and when I hung up with him last night, we decided that I should call him today to make sure lunch is still on.So I called him around noon like I said I would, but he didn't pick up...well first I texted him, and he didn't respond, so then 15 minutes later, I called, left a voice mail. About two hours since the first time I called, I decided to try again and he still didn't pick up. I tried to get a hold of him again because it takes like an hour and 15 minutes for him to drive to where I am since he lives kinda far from me.Finally, I just messaged him on myspace saying I tried to get a hold of him but he didn't get back with me...In fact, it seemed like he was really into me because he said his Saturday sucked since it started out at 4am and he had to go through all of that, and the only thing keeping him going that day was knowing he would be hanging out with me that night...that's what he told me, but then the weather got really bad so then we didn't hang out.Should I answer him if he tries to contact me again? I don't know what to think now. I thought I had met a decent guy to give him a chance and now he stands me up today. I really really really wanted to see him this weekend, and he knew it, too.I'm really disappointed. I thought I finally had a breakthrough, but then I get stood up. =/I hope I didn't seem too clingy, but he knew when I would call him and he hadn't picked up so I didn't know how other ways to get a hold of him...I even waited for a couple of hours to see if he would get back with me but he didn't so then I tried to get a hold of him again.
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Another epic failure? :(
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Perhaps you are being a bit clingy - perhaps he was in bed exhausted after a sleepless night or something like that. I think people should be given some slack until it's quite clear they are behaving badly.
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That could be because there was one time where he didn't answer his phone he told me because he was sick and sleeping. but I'm not sure if it's the same like now. I saw he had read my message I sent him a couple of hours ago. I think that if he doesn't reply to it, I'm not going to talk to him anymore. =/I have given guys in general too many chances and they all fail me. =(I just thought it was shady of him to be telling me on the phone last night how much he wanted to see me but then he stands me up today without a word whatsoever.
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Girl. Let the guys chase you. Dont waste your time on someone who isnt willing to give you the respect or decency of a call/text/myspace msg.
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Yeah. They are just disappointment after disappointment. =( I'm definitely not contacting him now seeing as he was on/read it and didn't respond. I'm gonna see if he will contact me after or if he is just really a douche after all.
The confusing thing is, when we were on the phone last night he told me how his phone might die any time so he didn't want me to think he was a jerk if he just hung up in the middle of the conversation it was because his phone died...but what he did today is even more of a jerk thing to do.
I'm very, very, very glad I didn't sleep with him the first couple of times we hung out. I think I would have felt 10 times worse if we did do that and then he didn't call back after that.
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I wouldnt answer or reply if he calls/msg's.
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At the rate this is going, I'm going to guess that he's probably not going to respond to me anyway and be a pansy and not apologize so I wouldn't have to even worry about responding to him :(.I think I have bad luck or something. There is no one decent for me.Someone told me that I shouldn't go looking for guys, and that they'll come to me.Well this one came to me first, I gave him a chance and still he blew it, too. Sigh.I think I'm going to become asexual.
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Honey dont think like that. Someone will surely come along.
Just remember not to fall for guys easily, let them try a little harder for a chance even if they came to you first.
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I hope so. I hate to admit that when I first got to know him, he seemed like the most decent guy I have met so far because he did use to get back to me quick, he even contacted me first sometimes, to make plans and followed through with them. And when something came up for him or if he did not want to hang out, he told me and I was fine with it before.And now I can't believe that now he's standing me up.I kind of saw this coming that he would, but I did not want to believe he was that type of guy. He didn't even come off as an arrogant prick when I first met him either. In fact, I really couldn't have seen him as a jerk.To me it does not matter where I meet guys whether it be from school or the bars...because in the end they all stood me up anyway. =/It was such a huge turn on for me that I thought he was this nice guy and now that he did that, it complicates things because I really did like hanging out with him when I did and wanted to get to know him more. =(
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Maybe he wasnt worth your time.
Be thankful that it ended sooner than later or it could have been worse.
We can't judge someone by how they appear to us first.