so i've been with my girlfriend for almost 7 months now (i am also a girl) -nevermind the username- and its been good so far, ups and downs as any relationship, but for the past 2 weeks ive noticed her becoming more distant, and less focused on me as she used to be. she admitted that she "had feelings" for one of our mutual friends, and that really was just like a kick in the face.
she told me that she doesnt want these feelings and is just waiting for them to pass but i know that sometimes these things dont pass. what can i do? i know we love each other alot but it is just hard when i have to deal with them socially. what do i do? breaking up is not really the option im looking for. i also dont want to ruin my relationship with our mutual friend but i am a very jealous/protective person and i dont like her so much right now :angry:
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Lesbian couple
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Hey Shmoe..
Great question. I know from our friends that lesboan relationships are so much more complicated than Gay relationships. Guys are just guys and for the most part don't run on emotion as much as you guys do. Have you tried telling her how you feel? I asume your relationship isn't open so I would make sure she knows how you feel about her and your mutual friends.You should be able to trust her and if she understands how you feel than just support her decisions about remaining friends with the other woman. If you see that it's progressed beyond a simple plutonic relationship then confront her. I know it seem hard, but you cant control who you fall in love with. If it was meant to be, your relationship with your woman will stand the test of time. My partner and I have been to hell and back more times than I can count but we have a very good stable relationship that is passing the 19 year mark this new years eve.just support her and love and aloow her to make her own decisions about you know who. That's about all you can really do without becoming a control freak
Good luck!